Willie
July 3, 2006 – April 15, 2019
That’ll do, Willie. That’ll do.
I can not write more right now. Not now. I can’t even find the perfect photo to include. Not now. But I will have lots to say, when the miasma of this pain has cleared. So, so much to say about life and death and dogs and the biological miracle that is our relationship with them. And about Willie. Our Silly Billy Willie Boy.
We are bereft, that’s all I can say now.
Here is what I sent friends yesterday morning, on Monday the 15th of April, 2019. I’m including it here, because so many of you feel like friends, even though we’ve never met.
We wanted to let you know that we are putting Willie down tonight. His cancer has defied all expectations, and in spite of chemotherapy and a gazillion other efforts, has spread to his thorax. His chest had over 2 liters of fluid in it on Friday morning; that’s over a half a gallon. We had him sedated so that it could be drained to give him some relief, but it is filling up again, and will continue to do so. Thus, over the course of one day, Willie’s prognosis went from 4-6 months with chemo to “a few weeks” IF he is sedated and his chest cavity is drained every few days or so. We have, after agonized thought, decided that enough is enough.
What was first perhaps “kennel cough” became “pneumonia” then “primary adenocarcinoma” with a single mass in the lung, to “metastatic pulmonary adenocarcinoma” with multiple tumors to a cancer, that within two weeks–and even after chemo and acupuncture and magic mushrooms and best food ever and god knows how many supplements–spread out of his lungs into his chest cavity.
Willie has been sedated 5 or 6 times, which makes him feel awful for 2 days, has had as many CT scans, multiple ultrasounds and Xrays, needle aspirations, fluid drained, and blood drawings. The best possible prognosis is a few weeks, and putting him through yet more procedures for a few more weeks feels wrong.
Tonight two wonderful vets, John Dally and Carrie Donahue, who have cared for Willie over many years, will come out to the farm to put Willie down tonight at 5. We will be burying him in the yard.
We are going to be pretty quiet for a few days–think wounded mammal in a cave. We will cherish any responses, but please understand if neither of us responds for a while. This is a tough one.
Love, and gratitude for your support,
Trisha and Jim
Today, April 16th, the morning after, we are taking Maggie for a long walk in the woods. She is a mess. So are we. We will find our way through this together.
Off you go Willie. Say hi to your Uncle Luke.
Holly Hein says
I am so very sorry. He’s so loved and I wish your time together could be longer.
Silke-Ryka says
Words cannot express the pain and grief of losing a loved one. Neither can they express my sincerest condolences to you and Jim. May you find the strength and hope to cope with this loss. Maggie will surely help you and all your friends will be by your side, even if they live all over the world. Our dogs give us so much and make us be our most positive self. Willie will always be in your and our hearts and he will surely always be proud of you Trisha, wherever his soul may wander.
Diane says
So sorry for your loss. It never gets any easier, does it?
Emily Moore says
May you find a tender, peaceful place to plant you grief. You are in my thoughts.
Timaran says
Oh, Trisha, I am so sorry for your indescribable loss. I feared as much yesterday when you didn’t post your usual Monday morning blog entry. I stated last week that I had never posted before, but felt that I should when you informed your village about Willie’s diagnosis. You and Willie have been inspirational to me as I continue to work to overcome my Ronan and Tamsen’s fear of other dogs. Please know that Willie’s and your experience has helped me immeasurably to know to be patient and not be overwhelmed by the loud barking and occasional lunging of a 100 pound German shepherd when he sees another dog.
“If I can stop one heart from breaking,
I shall not live in vain.
If I can ease one life the aching,
Or cool one pain,
Or help one fainting robin
Unto its nest again,
I shall not live in vain.”
–Emily Dickinson
Willie did not live in vain. Nor will he be forgotten, even by people who never met him.
Godspeed.
Stephanie says
What a difficult decision to make. I can’t imagine the heartache you are going through. I am so, so sorry. Willie will be greatly missed.
rheather says
Oh. So, so sorry.
Maria says
::weeping:: Oh, Tricia, I’m so, so sorry for your loss.
Humans try to cover the wound of grief with words, but in truth, there are no words to bandage your current suffering. There’s only time until it hurts a little less.
{hugs} thank you for sharing your journey with Willie with us, even unto the bitter end.
Kim McNeill says
What a very, very sad day. It’s always so hard to loose a good dog. And they are all good dogs.
Christy F Roberts says
I thank God that He gave you Willie and that you shared him with us. Through Your telling of Willie’s story I finally realized my Jorga would be just fine. There are no words I can say to ease your pain. Thank you for sharing him with the rest of us and showing the world how wonderful he was.
Lynn says
I am so sorry, Trisha. Thank you for sharing your good, brave Willie with us.
Janice in GA says
No words, just so, so sorry for your loss. It never gets easier, we never stop loving them and missing them.
Love and peace to you all. Run free, Willie.
Kirsten says
I am so sorry.
You did everything you possibly could.
You gave him a wonderful life and let him go at the right moment.
Best wishes to you.
It hurts so much.
I know.
Kris & Rich Gilbert says
We know how you feel and suffer along with you.
Lori Marchek says
I am so sorry for your loss. They just aren’t with us long enough.
Peggy says
I’m so very sorry for your loss. My heart hurts for you. God Peed Willie. Peace
Gina says
I am so sorry for you both and everyone that loved Willie. Just know that as you ride those horrible waves of grief that we know your pain and our thoughts are with you.
Barbara says
Run free Willie! Prayers for you and Jim and Maggie. Take all the time you need, grief is hard! All of us who have lost our beloved animals understand. As I type my eyes are welling with tears for you and for all the animals I have lost.
Clelia Brigneti says
I’m so sorry… my heart is with you…
Diane says
I’m sorry.
Cindy C says
I am so sorry for your loss. Grief is the price of love. Run free Willie, run free.
Pam Riek says
💔😶
Tracey says
The final act of love is the most difficult. Peace and joyful memories to you.
Karen DiCarlo says
Surrounding you and Jim with positive light and love. Breathe deeply and always remember how fortunate you are to have had such a special friend to share your lives. The Love…The Lessons Learned…The Unique Bond between you and Willie will never ever fade. He remains alive in your hearts and ours too. Thank you for sharing your experiences with that beautiful dog with us. Good Journey, Boy! Love You Willie ♥
Elaine says
So very sorry for your lost. Rest in peace Willy. I’m not sure how heaven can be better than the life you had on Earth but I sure hope it is
Ruth Goldman says
I am so sorry for the loss of your dear Willie. I have always enjoyed reading about him and the two of your relationship. Sending healing thoughts your way.
patrick mommaerts says
Oh My!!The inevitable came so soon.My tears and thoughts go to you,Jim,Maggie,Tootsie and all the woolies. Willie was a wonderful friend and companion to all of you.
That’ll do, Willie …..”Good dog”
Anne Copeland says
It seems such a high price we must pay for the love and company of our dogs, but when I match it against the days and hours of love and comfort they provide, I am getting away with the cheaper end of the bargain. Hoping you will find peace and comfort before too long.
Kathy says
I am so sorry. I hope you and Maggie and Jim and Tootsie can find peace and comfort in each other, in the sheep and cats, in good food, in walks, in spring weather, and in time. Beautiful Willy will be missed so much by so many people, but most by you and your family. If we could all take pieces of the pain and bear it for you, we all would.
Nic1 says
So very sorry for your loss Trisha. Sending love and heartfelt condolences. Devastating news but it seems the cancer progressed very quickly indeed and you were able to do the kindest thing to ease his suffering.
Farewell Willie, run free knowing your were deeply loved and that you touched thousands of human hearts around the world who never met you, but we loved reading about you growing up on the farm. You were the best boy and we will miss you forever 😥🐕🐾❣️🌈 🌉
Marta says
So very, very sorry for your loss
patrick mommaerts says
Oh my!!So soon….The inevitable time was too soon. My tears and thoughts go to you,Jim,Maggie,Tootsie and the woolies.
Come by,Willie…..
Ah, that’ll do…..Good dog!
Sharon Hunzeker says
If dogs did not bring joy and love to us we would never bring another into our hearts because it is so painful to lose them.
Mark says
I’m so very sorry. Went through this with my oldest 13 months ago and it’s gut wrenching. As I said to the vet and her assistant when they left, it’s part of the covenant we make when we take them into our homes and hearts, to endure our final kindness to them.
Rita Beraro says
Ouch, I can almost feel your pain. A lovely testimant ,to a good pal. What a great picture of him running up the hill. He was loved and missing him is the price of loving, as we all know. What a lucky family to have known him, he sounds awesome.
Karen Sandy says
To my sister in all things “dog”;
They crawl into our hearts, snuggle into our emotions, teach us so very much, and leave way too soon. Words have not been invented for the hole they leave. We said goodbye to our 15 yr old shepherd mix yesterday, also. We will both wade through this muck of sorrow. Every story, picture, memory is so precious. The legacy of love and teaching us is there forever, but no matter how long we have them it just is never enough. Peace and love to you, my friend…from your Willie and our Marley.
Elizabeth Traxler says
I don’t have the most effective words to say to you right now. I understand the fast, unexpected loss from canine cancer so well, and it is such a difficult time. I am wishing you and all of your family the deepest condolences and love and prayers as you go through the grieving process.
Kim says
I am so sorry Willie has passed on from this life. I know there are no words for how it feels. Cancer, in any form, is heartbreaking to go through, for everyone involved. I feel and share your pain. Much peace and love to you all.
Alice R. says
I have no words. I’m so sorry.
Jean Glaser says
It is never an easy thing, this gift that in times such as these we need to bestow on a soul that has been so close for a lifetime of love. My thoughts are with you.
Angie Breinin says
So very sorry for your loss, Trisha. I have enjoyed reading about Willie over the years. Free dog, buddy..
Maryk says
Bless you Tricia, for having the courage to do right by Willie. It is such a hard thing to do. He was a good boy; hard to believe he was almost 13. It seems like you just got him. Run fast & free sweet boy. You were so loved.
Susan says
Sending you hugs and love.
Debi says
Patricia, so very sorry for your loss. I can only imagine how empty your home feels and the large the hole in your hearts. Sending gentle hugs.
Pat Blocker says
I write this through tears of my own for you. Sending love and light to you.
Cat Warren says
No words, Trisha. Thank you for letting us know. Sweet Willie.
Lynne says
sympathies. we’ve been there and we get it. Lynne
Barb says
So much sympathy for you. Went through that last year with our Mandy. Miss her so much. Mandy and Willie are healthy now and playing with their families at the Rainbow Bridge.
Hugs and prayers! 🌈🐶🐾
Robin Beers says
Trisha and Jim, My heart is breaking after reading this. Cancer finds it’s way into too many homes, both people and our beloved dogs. I, like others who have read your books, feel like we have known Willie. My heart is so sad and I too will grieve for your boy. Prayers and hugs to you, Jim and Maggie until the sadness lessens.
Julie says
I’m so sorry for your loss. Thank you for giving Willie the release he needed.
AmandaL says
I am so sorry for your loss. Willie has been a fixture on this blog as long as I’ve been reading it, and his sweet soul will be missed. Sending you lots of love, comfort, and peace.
Meg Matsaganis says
There’s never enough time for one more year, one more month, one more day or even hour.
Once our hearts have been ‘stolen’, there’s no going back. Willie had an amazing life with you both. That memory is what you need to hold on to over these next days,weeks, months. Run free sweet boy!! The meadows are calling.
I’m so sorry.
Susan Santics says
I am in tears with you. I came to love you and Willie while reading your book about him. I cherished every word. My cattle dog was , and still is, on death row for biting a woman below the knee, while I read it. Your book helped me through the grief of him being locked up and alone. It taught me to face my fears also. Blessings on you as you go through this hard season.
Beth Teffner says
No matter how long it is—-it is NEVER long enough. You gave him the best gift a “mom” can give—a peaceful, pain-free passing to his next life. From experience, I know the memories you have will help to heal the giant hole in your heart and he will live in your heart forever.
Mike says
What a crippling sadness. I would offer perfect words of consolation and comfort; but have none. I can only say that I share the tiniest portion of your grief.
I clearly recall the embarrassment of my tears when first reading the moving description of your Mother’s reaction to the loss of her dog, and agreeing that, in part, the loss of a dog tears at us so deeply… because there are none of the normal frictions found in even the best of human relationships.
I’ve admired the obvious affection, curiosity & respect for our canine companions that permeates your blogs, your posts, and books.
Thank you for all you did for your sweet Willie. He was fortunate to have you and Jim. God bless and comfort you both.
Amber Bach-Gorman says
Trisha:
I’m so sorry. I feel like after reading the Education of Will and our conversations at the Denver conferences I knew him personally…even though I know I so didn’t. My thoughts are with you and your entire family – human and animal.
Jennifer says
So sorry for your loss. Your book helped me tremendously in forgiving myself for the challenges we have with our beagle. Thank you for sharing so much.
Tina says
I am heartbroken for you, Jim and all the critters on the farm. I know how very hard it is to say goodbye. Know he is watching over you with your other critters waiting for you at the bridge. Love and hugs being sent your way! Run fast and free Willie!
Linda Hein (Muddler) says
Oh Tricia, I am so very sorry. Such a difficult yet humanitarian decision to make. The loss of a best friend. My heart is with you.
Erica Marshall says
Such deep grief is a gift that only deep love can bring. I am so sorry for your loss. Love and peace to you all.
Zazie says
I’m so very sorry for your loss. You are in my thoughts.
Lynette says
I am so very sorry to learn of Willie’s death and send my deepest sympathy to you and Jim. As I weep for my BC Robbie who was pts at 13.45 British Summer Time on 15th April, I will also weep for Willie. Robbie was my heart dog – my Luke. Like many hundreds of dogs worldwide he had a better life because you have shared your life and knowledge so freely online. There are many downsides to the internet but you and this blog do so much good. Thank you.
Renee Thompson says
So very, very sorry for your loss.
Maegan Boyle says
I’m full of tears as I read your tender, heartbroken words. I have nothing to offer but my thoughts, and my love.
RIP Willie, you did good.
Catherine says
So very sorry for your loss. He unknowingly touched so many lives. Thank you for sharing so much of him with us.
Molly Current says
My heart is breaking for you. I’m really sorry. I know saying that doesn’t help, but I’ll say it anyway, and hug my little boy Harlan a little tighter tonight. Well, he doesn’t like hugs. So maybe we’ll snuggle extra on the couch.
Trisha Shirey says
It is so hard to lose a friend. I’m sorry for your loss. Putting our pets down is never easy, but often is the kindest thing we can do for them. Cancer sucks!
Donna Baker says
Tears for a dog I never met, but felt I knew. Tears for the humans who loved him with so much passion and fervor and devotion. Tears for the heart-wrenching pain of losing our beloved canine companions … it never gets easier, but it is a testament to the incredible impact they have on our lives.
Trisha, I am so very, very sorry for your loss and the speed with which the cancer took dear Willie from your arms. Sending many healing wishes and caring thoughts your way. Godspeed, Willie … your story was a remarkable one and touched so many friends, near and far.
Petra says
I am so very sorry. There are no words.
Sharon says
I’m so very sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing your journey with us.
Eustice the Sheep says
May his memory be a blessing.
This poem has comforted me more than once. Kipling loved his dogs, he was a dogs-in-the-bed person.
The Power of the Dog
By Rudyard Kipling
There is sorrow enough in the natural way
From men and women to fill our day;
And when we are certain of sorrow in store,
Why do we always arrange for more?
Brothers and sisters, I bid you beware
Of giving your heart to a dog to tear.
Buy a pup and your money will buy
Love unflinching that cannot lie
Perfect passion and worship fed
By a kick in the ribs or a pat on the head.
Nevertheless it is hardly fair
To risk your heart for a dog to tear.
When the fourteen years which Nature permits
Are closing in asthma, or tumour, or fits,
And the vet’s unspoken prescription runs
To lethal chambers or loaded guns,
Then you will find – it’s your own affair, –
But … you’ve given your heart to a dog to tear.
When the body that lived at your single will,
With its whimper of welcome, is stilled (how still!),
When the spirit that answered your every mood
Is gone – wherever it goes – for good,
You will discover how much you care,
And will give your heart to a dog to tear!
We’ve sorrow enough in the natural way,
When it comes to burying Christian clay.
Our loves are not given, but only lent,
At compound interest of cent per cent,
Though it is not always the case, I believe,
That the longer we’ve kept ’em, the more do we grieve;
For, when debts are payable, right or wrong,
A short-time loan is as bad as a long –
So why in – Heaven (before we are there)
Should we give our hearts to a dog to tear?
Debbie Huelsemann says
I am so very sorry for your loss. I know it hurts so very much.
Kelly Moran says
So very sorry. Through you he touched so many and taught so much. You loved him well and eased his passing as much as you could.
Mary Anne says
Love never dies. Safe travels, Willie, you were a very good dog.
Christine Zeltner says
I am so sorry. It is always so hard.
Suzanne says
So so sorry. Recently lost my silly boy Dart, I’m grieving with you. Just because letting go is unavoidable doesn’t make it any easier. He was so very lucky to have shared his too short life with you. Thank you for making the difficult effort of letting us know. Love to you.
Kimberly van Hemert says
Rest Easy Willie knowing you were loved and supported every step of the way. My deepest condolences to you Trisha and Jim.
Martha Brumfield says
We had to put our ” Luna” down on Jan. 16th at the age of 10 due to kidney failure. We are still devastated and we still cry over our beloved Blue Merle Sheltie. “Luna” will live in our hearts and dreams forever,,,what wonderful memories she gave us. God bless you and Willie!
suzanne says
I am so very sorry………what a wonderful home he had with you. I think the photo you chose is perfect.
Jenn says
So, so sorry for your loss. Willie was a wonder, and so lucky to have you. You gave him a great life. xxoo
Melanie Friedman says
So sorry. Run free in sunshine willie.
Sue Schaefer says
Thinking of you and Jim at this difficult time.
Rhonda Blalock says
Deepest condolences for the loss of your treasured companion and friend. Rest easy Willie.
Marie Hurley says
Death is a heartache no one can heal…
Love is a memory no one can steal.
He will rest in peace.
Cathy says
I am sobbing and heartbroken along with you. My thoughts will be with you and your family. While I never met Willie in person, I am better for “knowing” him through your book, posts, and stories. Thank you for sharing your boy and your journey with all of us.
Mainer says
So very sad to read this. Your books and blog about your dogs were life savers for me when we brought a wire fox terrier into our lives 10 years ago, having no idea how challenging he would be with his level of energy and love of stealing and playing chase. Willie will be remembered by many with real fondness. What a dog!! And a perfect epitaph you gave him above.
Melanie Behrens says
Tears for you and for Willie. I lost a special dog (my Willin’) to cancer 2 years ago and still struggle with my grief and degree of bereftness. I wish for you some peace. You gave him a wonderful life and that’s all we can do.
Lena says
Absolutely heartbreaking, I had to say goodbye to my precious boy in Oct and didn’t make it through your post without sobbing in complete understanding. We had a similar journey, first allergies, then skin cancer, then 3-6 months became weeks and then days. Take your time, don’t rush your grief, I am so very sorry. ❤️💔 fwiw it took me months to crawl out of my cave, and to be completely honest I’m still in there a lot. Sometimes the loss is too great to heal in what we may think is a timely manner. Be gentle with yourself.
Robin says
My heart breaks for you.
He had the best life a dog could ask for, and he will live forever because you shared him with so many of us.
Hugs from Ohio.
Niki Lamproplos says
I’m so so sorry. It is gut-wrenching and such bitter part of life. Having Jim and Maggie to share the journey is important. My heart is with you all.
Lisa Hayes says
Words cannot explain… they’re never here long enough, ever. But forever in our lives and especially our hearts. Thank you Patricia (andJim) for all you do, all you’ve shared in this journey. And thank you Willie for helping me guide my pups in this journey and into the next…
Loganbacon says
I understand your pain, and I am so terribly sorry. My heart hurts for you, and you are in my thoughts.
Karen Eckert says
So sorry. Crying. My heart aches for your loss. Run free Willie!!!
Margie Klemm says
I don’t really know you except though your writings and seminars and I never met Willie except through your writings, but I know and understand the pain and loss a beloved companion. He loved you for the whole of his life and you will miss him for the rest of yours. And those are two great things – being loved and loving enough to miss. I’m very sorry.
Carolyn M Henry says
Run free Willie
Evelynn says
So sorry for your loss, these amazing companions really take a huge chunk of our souls and heart when they go..
Amy says
My heart breaks for you and your family 💔.
Some dogs come into our lives like a devastating tornado. They cause us to question our own abilities as professionals and as human beings. I haven’t had a chance to read the book, you wrote about Willie. I will read it now.
Dogs are medicine. They are truly gifts from heavenly realms. Loosing Willie reminds me of the day I am dreading with my own dog. Willie came into your life to heal old wounds, I truly believe. Dogs have such powerful abilities to make us whole again. They just make every day better, even as they baffle and frustrate us simultaneously.
I apologize if I offend you, by offering prayers and God’s peace and healing presence, to flood every room in your home and broken heart. I feel honored to know Willie through all the stories you shared about him. Be kind to yourself as you grieve and heal. When you are healed, their is another amazing teacher waiting, in the form of a cold nose, a wagging tail and a heart of gold .
Kris says
Goodnight Willie. You made me stronger and taught me to forgive myself.
Christina says
Weeping in Toronto. Weeping for all of us who love dogs and are broken by this love again and again. How could it possibly be worth this… and yet, it is. I am so very sorry for your loss.
Michele Geiger-Bronsky says
We share in grieving your loss of Willie and are putting a request into the universe for the biggest star to emblazon our night skies in his memory. We shall place a special stone in his honor in the Rainbow Bridge Memorial Garden at Door County Scottie Rally headquarters in Baileys Harbor.
Susan says
I am so very sorry for your loss. The grief you feel for Willie is a gift, that you were lucky to have had such a wonderful friend. Let the tears flow to make room for the smiles and memories that you have to cherish.
MK Kendrick says
Oh goodness-I can feel the rawness of your grief and even as I write this I am crying along side you. We’ve never meet and yet after reading so many of your books and blog posts I feel like I have gotten to know you and your beloved Willy. I so enjoyed reading about him and felt the pure love and admiration you had for him. My heart breaks for you, for even as we know that our dogs will most likely not outlive us, to lose one prematurely to a devastating illness is all the more heartbreaking. I hope your memories of Willy will be of comfort to you in the coming days, months, and I expect years, as you navigate life without your precious boy.
Cristina Meyer says
My heart goes out to you. Willie, run the skys. You will meet so many other treasured and beloved dogs. I believe and hope with all my heart, one day you will be reunited with your family.
Dear Patricia, my heart aches for all of you and your loss. It is so hard for the survivors.
Mary Sue says
So, so sorry! Weeping with you…wishing you peace in time.
Betsy B Arrington says
I am so very sorry for your great loss. It is never an easy decision, but is the right one. We want to keep them with us forever, but the greatest love we can give them is the peace from suffering and you have given that to Willie. He is grateful and will always watch over you. Love, prayers, peace and hugs
Jeanne says
Dear Tricia~My heart is broken for you and Jim. No words to heal, no magic to soothe. Only prayers, and much love.
Ann says
I am so sorry, Trisha. The only thing that’s wrong with dogs is that they don’t live long enough. Losing them hurts, hard, every time and missing them never truly ends. Willie touched more lives, and improved the lives of more dogs and humans, than you can ever know.
I’m sure he’ll be waiting for you at the Bridge, when the time comes. Until them, grace and peace to you and Jim.
Cathy says
My sincerest sympathy and at the same time sincerest thanks for sharing your wonderful boy with us. Mystifying how the loss of a dog I have never met can touch me so much. That’s a testament to your love for him and your gift of communicating that love to us. My heart hurts for you, Jim, and Maggie.
Chris Carney says
We never believe it’s going to happen, yet it does. And the crack in our hearts grows larger. I’m so sorry for the huge loss of Willie, your beloved companion and constant friend. He’s had to go ahead without you, but I know you’ll walk together again one day. Hugs! 😢
Linda says
Heartbroken for you. I think those of us who read your and Willie’s story are all grieving right along with you. Thank you for sharing him with us. Rest in Peace, Willie – you’ll forever be in my heart and a part of my own healing process. My deepest condolences to you, Patricia and to Jim. The loss of a dog is not something we ever really get over. They are the best.
Jacqui says
I am so very sorry Trisha.
What a legacy Willie has left behind, but that doesn’t make it any easier for his family. Run free Willie, lots of friends to find at Rainbow Bridge.
Christy Crump says
My heartfelt condolences on your sad loss. I remember his Uncle Luke from tv. They’ll be able to romp together now. God speed Willie.
Claudia Sonnenberg says
So very sorry.
Mary says
I am so very sorry for your loss!😢 We are blessed to have these wonderful, loving, loyal, and beautiful dogs in our lives, but,oh the pain of losing them is so deep!
Praying for your hearts and souls to heal with happy memories to assuage the hurt.
We are all kindred spirits having walked this journey. Sending love and comfort and peace.❤️🐾
Barrie says
Thank you Patricia. Thank you Willie. Thank you for sharing your lessons. Know that it made a difference. All the love.
Patty says
Reading this post just made my heart explode in sadness for you and Jim. I traveled a very similar path last July with my 10 year old Aussie boy—right down to the perceived kennel cough, magic mushrooms, supplements, diet and chemo. Only to have him last two more weeks. It’s truly devastating. I am grateful to you for sharing Willie with us all, and I am so deeply sorry that you had to say goodbye. That’ll do, Willie.
Miriam Marcus says
Crying right beside you. No more suffering for him is a blessing.
Claire Ward says
I am so very sorry. Run free, dear Willie.
Rachel Friedman says
Sad and painful but sweet and unfiltered beauty to be able to help guide a loved one safely on to the next part of the journey, as yet an unknown but something we all will arrive to one of these days. I’m very sorry for your loss. Take all the time you need.
Jeanyne says
My heart breaks for you. I always enjoyed reading about Willie. Thank you for sharing him with us. Rest easy beautiful boy ❤️
Laura says
(Hugs) can’t say anything else.
C Crowley says
So sorry for your loss.
CJ in Canada says
Hugs and love to all of you.
Trudy G. says
It’s been three weeks since we had to say goodbye to my Mastiff mix after 12 great years. I share your pain and hope you are better able to cope than I have. I truly am sorry for your lost.
Jane says
What an absolutely poignant photo. I am in tears with you, my heart is breaking. I am so sorry.
Kim says
I’m so sorry. Much love to you, Jim, and of course, dear Maggie.
Karen says
So very very sorry for you all
Karen Sinovich says
So very very sorry for you all
Mary Graham says
I am so very sorry for your loss. The grief is proportional to the love we share with our beloved dogs- and your love for Willie came through in every blog post you wrote, every time you shared the joys and challenges of your shared lives. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Mariah Lopshire says
I am deeply saddened to hear this. The loss of a beloved one is never easy. I wish I had more comfort to give, but please know that there are those out there that grieve with you and wish you all the love and support during this difficult time.
S. Jordan Lee says
I am so sorry. I know it is never easy. May you hold your other dear ones close and, in the future days, find relief in your memories.
Sweet dreams, Willie.
Mary Maruszewski says
From the book “Dogs”: “…on the average dogs live about twelve years and usually do not exceed fifteen years of age. This is too short a time for such a worthy animal. Nature has been stingy.”
It always, always hurts.
I have followed your blog, and Willie’s journey. I am so very sorry.
Caroline says
Typing through a blur of tears to say how sorry I am for the loss of your beloved Willie.
Doerthe says
So sorry for your loss❤️
Chloe says
Oh damn that made me cry. I am so so sorry.
j says
We lost our lovely Aussie girl to a tumor on her heart, which occluded her vena cava. It caused lymph fluid to pour into her chest cavity, suffocating her. The draining didn’t work for her, either. I am so sorry- it is a terribly traumatic, sudden ending while your dog still looks so full of life otherwise. I wish you could have had more time.
Miki says
I’m so sorry.
Carol says
Trisha, I have held you in such high regard for many years. You have helped me love my dogs well and appreciate each one for who they were created to be. Thank you! I’m so sorry for the aching hole in your lives. Yours and Willie’s story is beautiful and transforming. Thank you for sharing it, and him, and you. May you be held by many hands and hearts that love you and share your heart for Willie.
Barbara says
Oh Trisha, I am so so sorry about Willie. I guess we were all aware of the inevitable outcome but I’m shocked it happened so quickly. I’m reminded of the song, The Dance, by Garth Brooks. … I could have missed the pain but I’d have had to miss the dance. Well, you and sweet Willie sure had one precious unforgettable beautiful dance together. When this pain lessens, as it eventually will, you’ll have a lifetime of sweet Willie memories to reflect on. Peace and hugs to you, Jim, Maggie and Tootsie.
Chris Wells says
I am so very sorry. We both lost a dog this week. I understand.
Chris Johnson says
Sobbing, just knowing your pain. I always say that dogs live such short lives so that we may love more of them in ours, but these extra special souls leave a hole so big that it sometimes feels as if it will always be a gaping wound. Thank you for sharing your life with him with all of us and hoping you can find peace soon. He’ll be with you forever. XOXOXOXO
Jennifer says
I am so sorry. We lost our Welsh Terrier (Miss Morgan) April 6th. I didn’t realize until now how much space she she filled in my heart and in our home. May the angels and pups surround you with their loving peace and joyful memories. Jennifer and Miss Morgan
Pam says
We never have them long enough. We will all hold our babies a little tighter, a little longer tonight. We have no words that will lessen your pain, we can only share in it. As hard as it is to outlive them, we wouldn’t do anything different. Peace.
Christine says
I’m so very sorry. My heart breaks for you. The bonds we share with those special dogs are a miracle. They fill our lives with such joy and such loss
Layne says
I am so very sorry for your loss of your dear friend and companion. I thank you for sharing your adventures with him as I have learned much from your shared interactions. Your love for Willie was evident in every post you shared about him. He’s left many paw prints on your heart. I wish you many sweet memories of Willie
Be well,
Layne & Jack
Jaye Mier says
Fly free, Willie…and land ever so softly.
Tara Messmore says
My Roy can show Willie where there are always sheep to be worked and Old Hemp himself can show him a few new tricks…
I ache for you, letting them go is so very hard but he went surrounded by peace and undying love.
No longer at your side but forever in your heart.
Debbie Simpson says
I wish I had a dollar for every gallon of tears being shed over the loss of Willie. I’d be rich. You make your animals so real to us, they mean so very much to us, we love them so much, that the loss is intense. Thank you so much for sharing your lovely boy with us. We’ve loved watching him grow and become such a good good boy. I haven’t felt this much grief for an animal I never met since Luke died. My best to all of you.
Margaret says
I am so sorry. Love to you all, and thanks.
LisaW says
I finally have a cogent moment to write (quickly before it passes).
First, our love to you all.
Second, a story: Our first heart dog (you can have more than one), Sadie, had osteosarcoma. We had her leg amputated in order to try and stem the cancer from spreading (she had many good months after that although not enough). When we went to pick her up from the surgery, our surgeon gave us mounds of instructions and cautions, and we were writing things down and asking questions and looking a bit shaky.
The surgeon smiled and said he was thinking of two elderly sisters whose dachshund was getting on in years. The sisters ate dinner out almost every night, and after they ordered their meals, one would go out and sit with the dachshund in the car while the other one ate her meal, and then they would switch. They did this almost every night until the little dog died.
All of us here would do — and have done — the same without question. Our love and commitment run deep and so does our pain.
Third, my six-word ode to Willie
Soulfully Sensitive
Willfully Bound
Ethereal Shepherd
Jan Murphy says
I am so, so sorry for all of you. (I’ve kept all of my collars too)
Kat says
Doing the right thing is always so gut wrenchingly hard. I’m writing this with a huge lump in my throat and tears in my eyes wondering how a dog I never actually met in life could have come to mean so much to me. Sending all my sympathy.
Marianna Thompson says
I am so very sorry. Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers. Thank you for taking us along on your journey with Willie. We grieve with you.
S says
Your heart is shattered… as you have done before you will pick up those shards and continue on with a hole in your heart and a loss you can’t forget. May you know the dog lovers you inspire by your blog and teachings surround you now with thoughts and prayers. We all walk this path. May you find peace in Willie’s freedom from pain.
Marilynn says
I am so very sorry to hear this. My heart breaks for you and Jim!
Lori Moore says
I am so very sorry: sorry for your loss, and sad there are no words to relieve your sorrow. Your story, together with Willie’s, resonated with me, giving direction and hope. Bless you for sharing your journey, we are grateful.
Lori M.
Vierter Foster says
Come run with me down memory lane.
It has been too long since you tossed my ball
Or called my name in joy.
It makes me sad to hear your pain.
We had such fun and loved the sun long days
When we were together!
I love your smile.
I am always here, waiting for your call,
In this corner of your heart.
Leslie says
My deepest sympathy. Take care of yourself during this sad time. Let your human and non-human family help heal your heart.
Beryl Gersch says
I am so very sorry. There are no words to fill the void.
Dawn Schuetz says
May God’s peace surround you.
What a good boy he was.
Jill Cooke says
I know there are no words. Please know you have an entire community of people who are holding you close in their hearts and thoughts. I’m so sorry. I’ve felt this pain before as many of us have. There is no getting used to it or getting “better” at it. Willie was lucky to have you, and you were lucky to have him. What a special, immeasurably beautiful relationship the two of you had. Prayers for you and Jim to be comforted, swaddled in the precious memories of Silly Willy that you will have forever.
Gail McGarry says
Oh, my heart breaks so much for you. Sweet, sweet Willie. I’m so sorry it ended this way. You guys are in my thoughts.
Katharine Weber says
I am so sorry very Trisha.
I lost a very special dog last May in a similar way. Her first symptom was 2 liters of fluid in her chest cavity. You met her mother Rider many years ago as a pup when you were working with my chocolate boy Baker.
I have fond memories of your dogs from then – including Luke.
My heart breaks for you.
Kay Weber
Dolly says
I am so sorry to hear this. I remember reading the story of you and Willie the first time and learning so much…about dogs and people and the love they share, the joy of it and the challenge of it. “There is a cycle of love and death that shapes the lives of those who choose to travel in the company of animals. It is a cycle unlike any other. To those who have never lived through its turnings or walked its rocky path, our willingness to give our hearts with full knowledge that they will be broken seems incomprehensible. Only we know how small a price we pay for what we receive; our grief, no matter how powerful it may be, is an insufficient measure of the joy we have been given.” ~Suzanne Clothier
Mary Friedel-Hunt says
I am so very sorry and grateful that you are going with “enough is enough”…a sign of true love.
Karen O. says
Run along Willie like a cloud shadow before the wind. Words seem insignificant when the heart grieves so, but I am so sorry for your loss. This is a path that never gets any easier to follow. Take care
Beth says
Words fail. I am so, so sorry.
Deb Mickey says
No words. xxooxooxoxo
Suzanne Burke says
I am so incredibly sorry and heartbroken for your loss. My warmest thoughts go out to you as you grieve for your beloved friend.
JoAnn Schak says
My heart breaks for you. You are in my prayers.
Tracy says
So very sorry for your loss.
Karen says
Thank you for your vulnerable generosity in sharing. Hugs, peace, best wishes.
Karen says
My sympathy to you and your family – those fur babies grab our hearts and never let go. Sounds like Willie was well loved and well taken care of.
Diana says
There are no words. My heart is with you.
Vicki says
Trisha, there really isn’t anything I can say to heal your pain right now but please know that I am so very sorry for your loss. There are special dogs that come into our lives and I know from reading your stories about Willie that he was one of those very special dogs. You did everything you possibly could for him and in the end thought about his quality of life instead of quantity of life. He knew how much you loved him and he knew you were with him in the end. When you are ready, please try to remember “Don’t cry because it’s over…..smile because it happened”. Hugs.
Jodi Grzeczka says
Patricia, you’ve taught me so much through your work with dogs, least of all the”heart” part. So very sorry for your loss. Willy was indeed one of The Greatest, for oh, so many reasons. Hugs and fellow tears. Willy will be forever with you. Take care
Rita Nixon says
I am so very sorry…I can’t stop crying…I know that pain all too well…may you find Comfort in your memories…know your love for each other lives on in you…
Dena A M Norton says
I am so sorry, Trisha. Gentle hugs for you and Jim. Scritches for Maggie and Tootsie.
Lisa says
There are no words that can make a difference right now but I am so sorry.
Dianne says
Thank you for sharing all the successes and failures in Willie’s time with you. You introduced me to commuted love for a dog. My heart goes out to you in your loss. I know how hard it was for me. May you continue to share your love with Maggie for many years to come. ❤️
Frances says
So, so sorry. The last, kindest gift we have for our beloved companions, but at such a heavy cost in grief.
SD says
So very sorry. I’ve enjoyed getting to know Willie through your books and blog. He was a great dog who touched thousands of lives.
Wishing you all much strength and courage
Kathy Flake says
My heart goes out to you, and your family of humans and pets.
Pat Hall says
I am so very very sorry, Trisha. We have talked briefly over the years at several of your seminars. Although I never met Willie, I feel like I know him from your book and your stories over the years. I know for sure he took a piece of your heart with him. This has to be so very hard. Just know that my thoughts are with you.
Susan Reedy says
LOVE
Marie Gruber says
Trish, I am so sorry for your loss. So very sad for you all. He is in your heart forever, that’s one thing that won’t change or end.Thank you for sharing him with us.
Lainy says
My heart breaks for you all, sending hugs💔🐾🐾
Chuck says
I am so very sorry for your loss. Your writings have inspired me over the years, and I have had rescued Border Collies for over 20 years. You and your dogs live through all of us that you educate and inspire.
We all she’d tears with you. Good speed.
Wendy says
I don’t think I’ve ever been brave enough to write a comment on your blog before, although I’ve enjoyed reading it for many years. But today is different and I want to let you know that I’m so very sorry for your loss of Willie. I could say that I understand because I’ve had to make similar decisions for my own pets, but I won’t because misery doesn’t necessarily love company in this regard. This kind of loss sucks…in such a big way…and nothing anyone says will change that. I will say that my tears join the river of tears flowing in your direction and my arms join the collective hug we all want to give you. Willie is at peace. I hope you will give yourself the gift of time to find yours, too.
Trish McMillan says
I am so so sorry. Thank you for sharing him with us, what an extraordinary guy.
Kathryn Butterfield says
Sharing in your grief and pain… so sorry… you loved him well …
Kitti says
I am so sorry for your loss.
As a vet and a dog lover: you made the right decision.
Grieve in peace.
Kitti
Victoria says
I hear your raw pain Patricia, and I am so, so sorry. I’ve read your book and I know that you will feel you have lost a part of yourself with Willie. I wish you the strength to rebuild your life without him. Sending love x
Nina says
No words are sufficient, but sending love and sympathy. So very very sorry.
Sharon M says
“For those fortunate enough to have shed a tear over a dog know the unconditional love they were given. It is by far the most beautiful gift you can receive in life. And if you are lucky, the most painful.” Bryan Morris
I know despite the pain you are all feeling for the loss of Willie, the blessings of his life and love for you will bring you equal joy and comfort…someday…
Nancy says
My heart is with you, Jim and Maggie. You are all in my prayers. There are simply no words. Hugs… big log loving hugs!
Mary says
Heartbreaking news,I am so sorry. Your decision was the right one but it doesn’t lessen the pain. Take care.
Pamela says
So very, very sorry. How lucky he was to have had you to love and you, him.
Laura Harrington says
I am so so sorry for your loss. It’s incredibly difficult under any circumstances but it’s even more so that it was so fast. The beginning of the rough road turned into the end so quickly. You and Willie gave each other many gifts. And you both have given so much to many!!
Morgan says
Oh my gosh, I am so sorry to read this. I feel like I’ve known Trisha and Willie over many years through her books and blog. What a marvelous phenomenon to feel so deeply for someone so far away. I know Willie taught Trisha many lessons, and Trisha has shared those lessons so that I have learned so much from this special dog. Hugs.
Run big, Willie. Run all you want.
Luan Egan says
A Border Collie does not quit, when it’s time to die
Rather, they gather the Stars and Moon, and drive them across the sky.
Watch for Willie on those clear starry nights.
Kandy says
Oh, Trish, my heart shares your pain. We believe friends and family, but our beloved pet family members seem to affect us even more. Their constant support and love through the yrs shows us the true way to live and enjoy every minute we’re with them. I can’t say I’ve ever gotten over any of their losses, but I do believe they’ve taught me so much in so many way from my dream of having a horse to so many dogs, cats and yes, even a little parakeet. Being part of two humane societies helps me believe in some ways I’m paying it forward, finding the lost and abandoned homes so that they can do the important work of saving their lost people. Much love to you and Jim.
wendy kuzma says
Tears filled my eyes as I read how much you and Willie have gone through in the last days.
The love of a dog and that bond is so special. We humans are so privileged to be able to experience that. Going to give my to labs a big hug now.
Pat says
I am so sorry. If there was only some way to share your pain we would all take a little piece. Instead Kona will play fetch just a little longer tomorrow to honour Willie’s memory in the best way he knows how.
Robin Rosner says
You are surrounded by love. Please rest and take care of yourselves and snuggle. I am beyond heartbroken for you all. Know in your heart that you all shared love that gave him the best life and times he could ever have had, and remember a quote that a cousin sent on a card by Shelley…that I loved so much I put on my pups tombstone: All love is sweet, given or returned.
Noel says
My heart goes out to you and Jim as you mourn the loss of your dear sweet Silly Willie Billy Boy. Take the time you need to care for yourselves as you grieve. May the nudging noses and cuddles from Maggie and Tootsie, the new life of baby sheep on the farm, and the love, hugs and prayers posted here, help to bring you comfort and peace.
JenN says
I’m so sorry.
I don’t have any other words, but please look after yourselves.
Kathy Engel Stabler says
I’m am so sorry for your loss. May your wonderful memories of Willie help you through this terrible time. Hugs to you all.
Jody Baker says
The sorry and emptnesses you feel is understood.
DENNIS KELLEY says
“A dog is the only thing on earth that loves you more than he/she loves itself”
Josh Billings
You showed that kind of love through your difficult choice for Willie…When you remember Willie, the tears will turn to smiles at a future time. Best wishes a fellow dog lover.
Jamie Anderson says
It was just the beginning of this year that my sister recommended I read your book because of the issues I was having with my rescue. It is so aptly titled- the education I received from it will be with me forever as will your story and Willie’s. Thank you for sharing him with us. Your book led me to the trainer we are now working with and whom I credit with saving my dog’s life and our family’s sanity- if he had been returned as the first behaviorist suggested I know he would have been put down. Willie saved him. I pray you find some comfort and some peace at some point in the future- all losses are hard – some more then others. Much love to you.
Robin Brandon says
Oh trish. I’m so sorry. I burst into tears of sorrow for the pain I know you’re feeling. And of course, after all you’ve written, I felt like I knew Willie.
It’s so hard to say goodbye. That empty spot they leave never seems to go away, even when you know the decision you made was the right one for him. I feel so bad for all of you, and pray that the pain you feel will become easier to accept.
Adrienne K says
I am so sorry for your loss and know how you feel. We have been there more times than I care to remember. Tears and sorrow finally bring us to a place of beautiful memories that we cherish as long as we live. My prayers are with you.
Grandma says
So hard, and we do it for them. You are right…enough is enough. We will remember him and smile.
Jeanette Yep says
My condolences to you all. You gave your Willy a wonderful life. Peace and comfort to you and please be kind to yourselves .
MaryAnn says
You and dear Willie together have taught us much and brought many to healing. We thank you both, and we hold you, Jim and your furry/wooly Family in Prayer at this very difficult time.
Fran Berry says
I am heartbroken for you…
Tana says
So so sorry. Can imagine your grief.
Send you a big hug.
JMM says
I am so sorry you had to say goodbye to your beautiful, good boy. You gave him the best life!
Run fast and free Willie!
Sandy Reichert says
Sending you peace and love during this very sad time.
Heidi Rosin says
By teaching Will how to stop surviving and start living he taught you the same and gave you the courage to share through his story which has touched so many. Your stories will continue to do so and Will lives on. In the meantime the pain seems unbearable and keening with grief is allowed. Bless you for doing the right and unselfish thing by letting him go with dignity and love. Eventually he will bump God’s hand with a wet nose, point out his paw-picked successor and bark my Mom needs that one and the higher powers that be will make it happen. Someday I will share my spiritual story of Osh’s leaving us and Malaki’s joining us. In the meantime this poem well known that it is has always offered me comfort when my four-legged companions have left this world for another.
Do not stand at my grave and weep
I am not there; I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow,
I am the diamond glints on snow,
I am the sun on ripened grain,
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awaken in the morning’s hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry,
I am not there; I did not die.
– Mary Elizabeth Frye
Kay East says
🐾😭💔
Nannette Morgan says
I’m so sorry for your loss, Trisha ;-( You all are in my thoughts and prayers.
Margo Harris says
My heart is breaking for you, Jim and Maggie. Hold your sweet Maggie close.
No matter how often we go through this, it never, ever gets easier, does it… Especially with such a special friend. I’ll be thinking of you all. Wish I could give you a big hug.
KC Wilson says
No words, just tears. I am sorry.
Minnesota Mary says
What a huge hole you and Jim will have in your lives going forward. You will need to find a way around that hole for the rest of your lives, and it’ll be tough. I know it isn’t easy losing a family member as extraordinary and connected to your hearts that Willie was. I’m praying for you both through my tears.
Margie Wiesman says
They are never with us long enough.
He was lucky to have such a caring, loving guardian.
Take care of your heart.
Carolyn H. says
I hope that the pain and grief in your hearts will soon be replaced by the joy and comfort of all your wonderful memories of Willie.
Namiko Ota-Noveskey says
Brought tears to my eyes reading it. What an adventure it must have been to live his life as your family… not only allowed to be a dog with someone who understands it, but also to discover his gifts. Remember to breathe.
Myra says
I am so incredibly sorry. Moving from there is some time left to share to none and the permanence of the absence is soul crushing. I lost my oldest 4 weeks ago to cancer with less than 24 hours from diagnosis to saying goodbye and I have had had many conversations with God where I say “just give her back”
Carol & Maeve the BC 🐾 says
😢
I only knew Willie from afar, but loved just the same. 🐾
Chris from Boise says
Trisha, Jim, Maggie and Tootsie – we hold you in our hearts. Take all the time you need. As you have so wisely counseled us over the years, grief has its own timetable. You have given us a great gift in sharing Will’s story over the years. Those lessons will resound for many more.
Suzanne Bryner says
I’m so very sorry. My heart hurts for you and yours. 💚
Mags palacio says
Dear Willie
Your Mom loves you so. She loves you so much that she made one of the hardest decisions of her life. How do I know?
Because I made that decision on 9/15/18.
Her heart shattered in a million little tiny pieces as you drew your last breath, as mine did. Her tears will flow as if she is bottomless . Her soul is a little less restful.
And she’d do it again to make sure you were not in pain in this world. Although another may come to reside in a corner of her heart you will always be her best boy.
I know this to be true because another came to rest in a corner of my heart. He helped me to love again and to know that when the time comes I’ll break my patched up heart into a million pieces again. You were loved and you loved what more can we ask.
Elle says
So very sorry Trisha. Willie was such a beloved dog. Of course words can only offer such limited comfort. But here are my favorites for consolation:
It wasn’t so much that his heart stopped as that he gave it all away”
…and he gave you so much!
Take care
E
Kris says
What is hardest for us is usually the best for them. Take comfort in knowing that you gave him the most precious gift in the end — a life free of pain and illness. No dog could have asked for or been given a better life.
So, so sorry for your loss.
Lynette says
I feel your pain, i feel your loss of Willie. They become embedded deeply in our hearts. I lost my yorkie, Ziggy, last August. We had less than 24 hours of finding out he was suffering from a mass in his airway and deciding to let him go and put him down. We do it for them. We do everything for them so they don’t suffer but we suffer for their loss. You will miss Willie, you will cry for Willie. I miss my Ziggy and cry for him often. I can’t tell you it gets easier. After 8 months I still miss him terribly. Willie is happy and pain free, that is a blessing and he was your blessing while he was here with you. My sympathy for your loss but celebrate for your memories.
Laura Brody says
Your pain is shared by all of us who have followed you and Willie over the years.
Mary Foree says
Oh, Tricia – I have a huge lump in my throat right now, for you and for Willie! I have had to put down Snowball (American Eskimo,) Abby, (my ❤️dog, a Westie) and Moose (Springer Spaniel) and my heart broke each time. I am so sorry for your loss! I know that last sentence seems lame at times, but I truly mean it. You and your family have suffered a terrible loss of a family member (even though he had 4 legs instead of 2!) My heart is with you!! 💔
Tracy says
I am literally crying for you. I know your heart hurts. Wishing you much love and peace and many fond memories to get you through this. Lifting you up.
Edith Chase says
I’m sorry for your loss. Sending comforting thoughts.
Pam Hogle says
Heartbreaking. Thank you for sharing his story. So many people knew and loved Willie. We share your grief.
Susan M says
So sorry about your loss, but it sounds like you decided the best option for him. He will be glad you let him go so he can be running free from pain once more. I had to make the same choice 2yrs ago, and it’s the hardest decision to make.
Lara Monroe says
Good boy, Willie. Sweet dreams. You take a part of us all with you as you go. Thank you for everything.
Barbara & Phoebe says
Dear Trish and Jim,
We are so very sorry to read this and are holding you and Maggie gently in our thoughts.
Monika, Sam & Elsa says
The tears are flowing hot down my cheeks. I am so very sorry for your loss. Sending oodles of poodles of thoughts of loving comfort as you find your way in the days ahead. 💔
Cindy says
I’m so sorry to hear about Willie. Dogs go so fast.
The empty collar reminded me of Sunny, the dog who “taught” me how to use clicker training, who was very special to me. He died very suddenly from Hemangio in 2009, at his own time, and I still have his collar in my car.
Gayla says
I hope, in his passing, he now knows how much healing his life and story has brought to the world.
Well loved, Sweet Willie. Well loved…
Louise Toole says
So sorry Trisha. I empathize as I put my beautiful Kai girl, chow/samoyed or husky mix, 11 years old, to sleep on 4/2. I can’t fully read this right now but will later. I have not told this news to all that I want to tell. Mornings are hard. I so miss her and worry how her border collie sister is handling her loss since they cannot talk to us. Always takes time as we know.
Deborah Martin says
I don’t know you, this post just came up & touched my heart. I feel your pain deep inside like an ache that can’t be southed. But with time, this ache will ease bit by bit. A smile will slowly form instead of a tear, then real laughter will come remembering all the crazy antics Willie performed. The pain eases, but the love & memories will remain in your heart forever.
God blessed you with Willie & his care, and it sounds to me like he picked the right people.
Deb McGrath says
I am sorry for your loss…our challenging pups become our heart dogs, and take a piece of our heart when they leave us behind…but when this heart wrenching raw grief passes, your boy will fetch that portion of your heart and return it along with beautiful memories.💔
Tora T says
I leave you with the words that helped me immensely when I lost my soul-dog Bey. They still do…
“You are the sunlight in the long wheat grass,
and I will remember you, smiling. You gave me
years, more than I deserved, less than I
wished for, and I will remain thankful for them
until mine are up and my number is called, once
again. Was the last light in your eyes, the flicker
before the fade, you beginning again? I feel you
here, fresh and unafraid, and I know you are
saving another life, setting another heart free
by now, by right now. Is this what it is to ache,
is this longing?
I have circled the same path, worn the grasses
down to stalk and dust, and I will continue to.
I am listening for your name, called from a mouth
besides mine, and sometimes I hear it. The wind offering
it up as it carries it over the hills, distant and
still.
I am a swiss cheese heart, holes left when pieces
were taken, and yours may be the biggest. Perhaps
death is the last hole removed, when we are
more air than heart, too many holes in too
many places, the blood doing roller coaster
flips around aortic loops before spilling
out and decorating the dirt. Yours is mine,
they mixed long ago, and I bled
as you did.
Thank you, for saving this life and giving me
back to myself; thank you for teaching me,
reminding me, and for the comfort that came
effortless and swift every time I knew
I needed it, but more, for every time
I did not know I did. I feel you, and
I will hold your name sacred between
my teeth. I know you are here, new,
though you earned never returning again.
You came back, for me, and will see me
through.
-Tyler Knott Gregson-“
Elaine V. Oette says
So sorry for your loss. You gave Willie every chance and finally made the wise and difficult decision to let him go painlessly and with dignity.
Adrienne says
As one of your earlier posters said, “Typing through a blur of tears to say how sorry I am for the loss of your beloved Willie.” Willie cuts a very big swath in the universe for other dogs to follow. Thank you for sharing him with us.
Rosalie Kok says
So sorry for your loss. It is never easy, even though you know it is for the best.
HFR says
Long ago someone told me that in France they call dogs “beasts of sorrow”. Thankfully, they are also beasts of joy. My heart goes out to you, Jim, Maggie and Tootsie. I hope your heart feels a little bit lighter every day.
Kristin Luker says
Someone once said life with a dog is many, many wonderful days and one dreadful one. My thought are with you on this dreadful day. My only consolation asI think of his loss, is that he lives on in the pages of your book
Debbie S says
So very very sorry to read this, Trisha and so sorry that the heartbreak as quickly as it did. For me, getting thru the grief is a slog made up of putting one foot in front of the other until I come thru on the other side with the sun shining again, if only a little. Years ago, I came across the following poem which I recite to myself periodically. Godspeed, Willie.
We have a secret, you and I
that no one else shall know,
for who but I can see you lie
each night in fire glow?
And who but I can reach my hand
before we go to bed
and feel the living warmth of you
and touch your silken head?
And only I walk woodland paths
and see ahead of me,
your strong form racing with the wind
so young again, and free.
And only I can see you swim
in every brook I pass
and when I call, no one but I
can see the bending grass.
Author Unknown
Debbie says
I’m so sorry….I shed tears for Will. I felt I knew him, having read your beautiful book about him. You helped me immensely deal with my dog. Thank you for giving so much through sharing your stories.
Kim and Cesare says
So very sorry. To lose a dog or cat is like losing one’s
Arm or leg or heart. Through your writing about Willie we learned that sometimes our love is hard earned. However there is no stronger bond than the hard earned love or challenges we grow from. Just like many – I loved Willie too. 🐾❤️
Linda says
I lost my boy in February. I just about crushed me as he was the light and laughter of my life! I am deeply sorry for your loss. It sounds like your Silky Willy was the same for you.
Tracy Harris says
I am so very sorry for your loss <3 There are no words that I can say that will ease your pain because frankly, this is pain that is beyond anything. Willie's unconditional love brought you so much joy and his love will get you through this. So very sorry for your loss.
Heartfelt Sympathy,
Love and Light,
Tracy
Kat says
So very sorry for your loss! Sending love from Maryland.
muttzrule says
I’m so very sorry for your loss. I have been there and my heart is breaking for you and your family. 😢 When Scout was diagnosed with cancer, the vet first thought he might live up to six months. He had good days here and there, but after three weeks was in such pain that it was time for him to cross the bridge. Your love for Willie shines through in your writing, and you are the best mom he could possibly have had.
*continues reading blog at office*
not gonna cry, nope, not gonna..aww rats…at least the red eyes and sniffles can be blamed on allergies….
Virtual hugs/ belly rubs/ chocolate/ milkbones to you all.
Carrie says
Tears, and hugs to you and yours (two- and four-foot both).
Tina Russ says
I am so very sorry for your loss. It is a pain like no other. So thankful he was in great hands with you. God bless you in this time of grief.
Amy says
I know there are no words which can help heal the hole in your heart but all of the comments above and poems will hopefully comfort you.
I will add my sympathy and prayers as you go through this very difficult time of grieving. Thank you so much for sharing Willie with us!
Jen G says
Oh I am SO sorry. Hugs to all of you.
Melissa Yvonne says
Sending you strength and energy.
Sharing your sorrow,
((Hug))
Melissa Winkle
Carol says
My deepest sympathies for your loss of Willie. Thank you for your kindness and empathy in sharing details about what must be a most difficult time. You are helping those of us for what is to come, how difficult that is to even comprehend.
You’re one of my heroes, I am so grateful for your advice and sharing.
Beth says
Always the hardest part of having our pets is our loss, but thankful for all that we learn and memories we make with each one. Keep those close to your heart and may they bring smiles to your face and help the broken heart.
So sorry for your loss
Sonya says
My heart hurts for your heart. RIP willie.
Mary says
I am so very sorry for this devastating loss of Willie. He was such a great dog and gave all of us so many wonderful gifts. Thank you for sharing him with us even at this sad ending.
Donna OReilly says
So very sad to hear of the loss of dear Willie….((Hugs))….may you find peace.
Here is a wonderful poem that I read & re-read when I lose a dog to illness. It helps my heart to heal❤️—–
Request from the Rainbow Bridge
by Constance Jenkins
Weep not for me though I am gone
Into that gentle night.
Grieve if you will, but not for long
Upon my soul’s sweet flight.
I am at peace, my soul’s at rest,
There is no need for tears.
For with your love I was so blessed
for all those many years.
There is no pain, I suffer not,
The fear now all is gone.
Put now these things out of your
thoughts.
In your memory I live on.
Remember not my fight for breath,
Remember not the strife.
Please do not dwell upon my death,
But celebrate my life.
JOAN L LINDBERG says
I am crying many, many tears, and I’m not usually a “cryer”. To me it is not “Good-bye” but “See you later”. When my time comes, I’m going to move right past any friends or relatives waiting to greet me in the great beyond and go directly to Rainbow Bridge to get my hugs and kisses from all my dogs (and a few cats and a couple of canaries). My deepest condolences to you.
Erin Maurer says
How absolutely devastating. I have not been following your story, nor do I know you. But someone posted this heartbreak and I feel the need to respond. I am so, so sorry for this unimaginable loss. We do so love our canine friends and family. Making that decision often feels horrible, but in the best of all possible outcomes — it is the merciful one. You gave him a beautiful life that he showed gratitude for with unconditional love. In the end, you gave him your unconditional love and let him go with dignity and in peace. Bless all of you, and his little pea-pickin’ heart. My soul is heavy with yours tonight. Know you’re not alone.
Kerri Porter says
You don’t know me, but I feel your pain. I have had 5 dogs with cancer and did everything I could for each of them, you know how the story ends. It leaves a raw hole that you learn to live with because your loved one was taken from you too soon. It steals your joy and makes their life a burden to them that only oblivion can ease. So that is your last gift to them. There are no words for how wrong it is. I am truly sorry for your loss.
Jeanne says
I’m very sorry for your loss. Having lost two seniors in a short time, your pain is all too familiar. I wish words or deeds could heal your heart. Rest well, Will, you’ve left your unforgettable mark on the world.
Sandy says
Thank you for sharing the deep and special relationship you shared with Willie so publicly. I’m so very saddened for you! I’ve felt the pain of aggressive canine cancer, and l live with a 3 year old pup who is very reactive like Willie. Willie was so very special. Your openness to share your journey, through your book and now through your post, has truly spoken to me. Thank you! May Willie have a peaceful rest now!
Melanie Hawkes says
Oh no, I didn’t expect to hear this tragic news so soon. Sorry doesn’t seem adequate but thank you for letting us all know. It’s safe to say that there is a hole in all our hearts now. Yours, Jim’s and Maggie’s hearts will have the biggest hole and nothing we say or do will fill it until time does. Take as much time as you need. I look forward to reading your reflections on this difficult time when you are ready. Know that we are all thinking of you and that Willie’s legacy will live on through your love and words you wrote about him. I haven’t read your memoir yet but will order it this weekend. I live with a reactive dog but will cherish his time with me now, despite his challenges, as you never know when his last day will be. You and Willie have taught me that, thank you.
Hugs from Australia.
Sheridan Davis says
My copy of The Education of Will just arrived yesterday. To me, it is a protective talisman, a map of how a good dog and good humans can overcome almost anything with love, skill and care. Thank you Willie. Thank you Trisha. Run free goooood boy. We’ll see you in the next, best life.
Heidrun says
I just want to say “Thank you”.
Thank you, Trisha, for being so brave as to share your life and story with Willie with all of us.
Thank you, Willie, for being the dog that enabled his human to do so.
Love and strenght. And always a little light to comfort you in the darkest of times.
Toni A Beach says
I have had need of this 3 times and found it to give comfort! I hope you find the same.
***THE STAR***
The ***STAR*** (c) Doug Coulter 7/96 “All Rights Reserved”
I have used the star three times in my life and it has worked all three times.
I used it when my parents died and in July of l996 when I lost my Golden Retriever Tammy.
Part of the blood that flows through my body is Native American, and the Star was told to me years ago by a wise old lady.
I have felt the pain first hand of loosing a Golden and feel I must share the Star with other owners in their time of need.
When someone leaves this earth they must take a very long and lonely journey, what I am going to tell you is how to find out if that journey was successful.
You must have loved your dog when he was alive and upon his death feel as if your heart has been ripped from your body.
The star will not work if it’s a false gesture on your part.
You must follow the steps exactly the way I will tell you to find that star.
Go into the night the first clear night you have in your area.
Go to a spot you and your dog used to go.
Close your eyes and talk to your dog as if he is sitting right by your side, don’t rush it; tears will flow like a giant river.
All at once you will feel a very strange sensation; it will feel as if the dog is sitting right by your side.
At that moment open your eyes and look to the sky, look all over, but mostly in the North, Northeast portion.
All at once you will see the brightest and warmest star in the sky; it will be the one blinking.
It will draw your attention to it.
At that moment close your eyes, then open them again and if you see that star again it is you dog telling you that he has had a successful journey.
That star will stay in the same spot night after night until your grieving is over, then it will disappear- never to be seen by you again until you too have made that successful journey.
When your journey is complete, you too will put your star in the sky.
Doug Coulter
Past Home Of: U-CDX -TAMARA OF DOC’S MONTY- CDX, S-CDX, CGC, REGISTERED THERAPY DOG (Our Little ***STAR***.) 11-9-85 to 7-19-96 Waiting patiently for me at the bridge. I still miss you, I still love you, and the hurt is still there.
Carol says
I feel deeply for you. I am so sorry for this profound loss. Peace.
Michael Barnes says
What wonderful lessons you taught each other. What wonderful lessons you taught us all.
Leigh says
Dr. McConnell I am going to be one of a thousand who is mourning with you the loss of willie. Please know that he made an impact on so many dogs and people, especially my boy and myself, because of your book for the love of a dog I was able to feel like I finally found someone who got what it was truly like to love and live with a unique dog. Sending love and light to all who loved willie and to your daily and most importantly Willie on his trip to the rainbow bridge ❤️
Sharon Gillis says
So Sorry for your Loss. It is very difficult to let go of a truly remarkable companion.
Betsy McCoy says
It’s not goodbye. It’s until we meet again.
Sometimes the kindest thing to do is also the hardest.
Praying for peace and comfort for you guys.
Shari says
I am so very sorry. Willie taught us all a lot. Zikhrono livrakha: may his memory be a blessing.
Sheryl says
I am so very sorry.
Norene says
Trisha,
So very sorry to hear of Willie’s passing.
“There Is No Word for Goodbye”
Sokoya, I said, looking through
the net of wrinkles into
wise black pools
of her eyes.
What do you say in Athabascan
when you leave each other?
What is the word
for goodbye?
A shade of feeling rippled
the wind-tanned skin.
Ah, nothing, she said,
watching the river flash.
She looked at me close.
We just say, Tlaa. That means,
See you.
We never leave each other.
When does your mouth
say goodbye to your heart?
She touched me light
as a bluebell.
You forget when you leave us;
you’re so small then.
We don’t use that word.
We always think you’re coming back, I
but if you don’t,
we’ll see you some place else.
You understand.
There is no word for goodbye.
— Mary TallMountain, Athabascan
Norene + Bear send you and your family hugs.
Barb Stanek says
You made the right decision, wrenching as it is. All support and love to you all.
Barb and Sawyer
Shirley says
My heart breaks for you and all who loved Willie. We made that decision just a month ago for our dog and again this morning I was sobbing as my husband told me of a happy dream he had about him. I hate that anyone has to endure this pain but I can only accept it knowing the depth of the love that was there. I hope you can too with time.
Sheridan Davis says
The next great adventure–death. When I think of Willie on his next great adventure, I imagine him released from all fear. What a gift that you both gave each other in that you both learned how to navigate your way through your fears because of your love for each other. And Christian or not, I wondered if this verse would speak to you–Perfect love casts out all fear. You gave him perfect love Tricia. And he gave you perfect love too. An enduring gift in this temporal world.
Lorena Chavez says
I don’t know you. And I only know of you and Willie because I came across your post in my Facebook feed. But as I read your post my heart aches for you. I have tears in my eyes as I’m writing this. I pray that in time your pain eases. And although I know it doesn’t help and that you already know this, willie is free of pain and running through the fields playing with the others already there past the rainbow bridge. He will be waiting to greet you and be reunited with you someday. And when he sees you his tail will wag with happiness And he will run as fast as he can to greet you and give you hundreds of of doggie kisses.
My prayers and love to you and your family and of course Willie ❤️🐶🙏
Judy says
So very sorry to hear this, sounds to me like you did the right thing. I know that decision was very hard to make, but he is at peace now, no more suffering. Take time to heal and remember all the Happy memories.
Andrea heitzman says
Oh no! I just read that Will crossed the Rainbow bridge. So sorry.
Terry Preuss says
So sorry for your loss. We are never given enough time with them.
Judy says
Oh Trisha, Jim and Maggie I am so sorry for your loss, my heart breaks for you. I have loved Willie in my small way because I read your blog and most of all because I have read the Education of Will, Willie’s story intertwined forever with your story. May you know that Willie’s reach is long and wide even after his passing. Thank you so much for sharing his life with us. May you know that all the times you shared together, everything you gave to each other – death takes none of that away, it is all there forever in your heart now. That’ll do Willie, good boy.
Love and hugs Judy
Connie B says
Trisha – I just now saw this post about Willie. While you grieve, know how grateful we are for your generosity in sharing Willie with us – all of us who have posted, who feel like we’ve known and loved Willie, who are crying and grieving with you. We know that Willie is now at peace, and we wish that for you and Jim, and Maggie and Tootsie.
Carmen says
How very, very sad. My thoughts are with you. Willie will always be in your heart. Always.
Mark Dierbeck says
So sorry for your loss. Thank you for your openness in sharing your journey with Willie.
Katie sawyer says
Just wanted to let you know you are not alone in your grief. Its kind of like if you hear a person died the reaction is. oooo so sorry to hear. But when its a dog the person is like agh. What can I do, do you want tea, what can I get you, here are some tissues….. You dog loved you too. If not it would have ran away long ago. Prayers for you at this time. Ruff Ruff
Susan says
Our special companions are never with us long enough.
I feel your sadness as we lost one of ours in the past year and still feel it.
Love you you and thanks for all you share with us.
Susan
Jill Leggio says
Such heartbreaking sadness…
Lisa Orman says
Oh Tricia, I’m so sorry. It takes so much love to spare your baby of pain & suffering and bear the pain of losing them. My heart breaks for you,
Jen says
So sorry for your loss. My 19 year old doxy, who I had since age 12, passed in November. I still tear up thinking about him.
Jenn D. says
My heart is broken for you. I’m so, so sorry. Your clear and shining love for him will live on as the most incredible tribute. Goodbye, sweet boy.
Anita Schuneman says
I am so very, very sorry. They take a part of our hearts with them when they go, but they go with so much love. We all die–would that we are all as fortunate as Willie to have been so loved and cared for, and helped with his transition.
We have never met, but I feel you are almost a friend. We are all united in the love of these wonderful creatures who share our lives.
Please take good care of yourselves.
Diane says
I am so sorry.
“That’ll do” crossed my mind when I lost my beloved dog last year. Your feeling for Luke was so strong. When you lost him, and I read of it, that phrase bore right into me.
And now sweet Willie. Your love for him, and all your dogs, is deep.
Alice says
Just so sorry for you, I am writing through tears for you all, god it is so so hard. Sending love xx
Jean-Marie Simon says
I am deeply touched by your blog and the loss of your canine “person.” We don’t have dogs; we have cats, two rescues.I was allergic to cats — inhaler, etc. — until last year, when our daughter in Houston became involved with Houston Pets Alive and ended up rescuing a litter of five, two of whom lived. She parted with them on the condition that we raise them. Thanks to Zyrtec, Claritin and Allegra :), we are all just fine. But I wanted to say that the experience of having two cats in a house that never had more than a hermit crab, and the occasional mouse, has taught me a great deal about how fortunate we are to have these little guys in our lives. I am so sorry for your loss. Willie is gone, but he’s with you always in the ether.
Karen says
I have only just found you tonight, April 19th, sadly after saying goodbye to Willie. I wish I had found your page earlier. Having loved deeply and lost several beautiful dog souls over the years, (the most recent a 17 year old cattle dog mix and a 12 year old Ridgeback), my heart is heavy with your pain. There is no loss like that of a beloved pet as their life was devoted to loving us unconditionally. I know you will heal from this and move on to love another dog, as time passes. Yet I also know Willie will always remain a special chapter in your life. Sending healing thoughts.
Daryl panks says
Sorry for your loss. What you wrote has been instructive, my girl only has a week left the way the tumour is growing. I’d been thinking of attacking it aggressively, my vet doesnt think it’s in rubys best interest, your piece has given me the strength to let go, thankyou..
Karen Miller and Maggie Cullen says
Thank you for making us feel like we were a part of his life.
Out hearts are broken for you.
Philip Barker says
We do not know each other, but I have read your books. Your other dog, (Maggie?) will be as heartbroken as you. Take the time to grieve together – I’m sure it will help you all.
Igor says
I’m so sorry for your loss. It sounds like Willie had a great life filled with love, caring, lots of sheep herding, and was surrounded by those who love him in the end.
Sylvia Jordan says
I am crying for the dog I never met. Run free Willie.
Karen K says
I am so very sorry. :'(
Vicki in Michigan says
Oh no. I am so sorry.
It is always so hard when they must leave us behind, and sometimes it is even harder. I send much sympathy.
judy says
I am still there with you even though I lost my boy the 3rd of DEC. He was barely 10. And because I was so sick that night I slept which was unusual for me. So I didnt hear him struggling to breathe. And when I woke up and saw him not able to stand he wagged his tail and I scooped him up. Before I could clear my brain to think what to do he gasped one more time and was gone. Less than 10 min from waking and finding him. I was eaten up from guilt. I never slept more than an hour or 2 at the time so why of all nights did that have to happen when I was knocked out with the flu. His wagging tail was saying to me it will be better now mommys here. I always made him feel better. But this time I let him down. Maybe I might not could have done anything. I dont know why he died. If it was his heart or cancer. Now I find out that dogs are dying from heart failure especially more so on grain free diets because they are lacking in taurine. So maybe that was it which means if I had known he could have been saved. He just had a cough. He ate good the night before. And as spring breaks out my heart aches for him. He loved spring so. After being cooped up in the winter and before the heat of the summer. The other day I held his brother and cried.
I understand the agony of watching one die struggling with the fluid. Many years ago I had an Australian Shepherd that was practically human. She was around ten and a half when she got the cancer in the sac that her heart was incased in. The vet had told us when he drained the fluid so she could breathe and her heart could beat that it should give us 4 to 5 weeks. It was 5 days. He drained it again and we rented a video camera hoping to get some of her on “film” but it was only 2 days this time. And she looked at me pleading. I knew what she was saying. Back then all those years ago a few compassionate vets still existed. He told us he thought it was so much better for an animal to remain in their home for the final sleep. At home where they were contented surrounded by the familiar and their family. So we called him and he came to our house to give her the injections. She was struggling so hard to breathe the fluid had built up so quickly. One of the cats was attached to her. And after her death I almost lost him. He grieved for her so much he went nearly a month not eating. I was forcing supplement down him willing him to keep going. Finally he snapped out of it enough to start eating again. Many years later when he died I had their ashes combined together in one urn so they could be together again.
We know these babies have short life spans even when they live long for their age. Yet we cant help but let them into our hearts time and time again. Even as I write this I have one I expect to die any time. Yakut is 19 maybe even 20. She has lived longer than her mom.or dad or siblings did. Her mom was nearly 15. I love all my babies. They all have owned me. But sometimes one of them bonds closer. Yakut is one. When I came back home after being in the hospital she wouldnt let me out of her sight. For nearly 3weeks snuggling beside me wasnt enough she had to be on me. I would wake up with her laying across my neck or chest. So when she goes its going to take yet another huge chunk of whats left of my heart. With each one a piece of me dies. If I could go back and do it over I would still let them all back into my heart. I would not lose all that they gave all they shared with me just to be free from the pain of losing them. And nothing I can say will help ease the hell you are in right now. Who knows? Maybe in some level of existence your Willie is running with my boy Zeus chasing a rabbit in a field somewhere. I am glad you had a compassionate vet that let him go at home. We dont have any of those here in central ky anymore. Its all about the money with all of them now. And those of us on fixed and low incomes have no where to go for medical help. When Zeus died I had just gotten the 150 I needed to get his chest xrayed to see what was causing him to have these coughing spells. 42 for an office visit. I have been told by a vet that if you cant afford them then you shouldn’t have them. Greed has overtaken compassion here. Refusal to hold a check until its paid for or any effort to set up a payment schedule contributed to his death. If I had a clue that he was about to die from anything I would have gladly gone overdrawn though and figured out how to pay for bills later.
I send you a huge cyber hug and cry tears with you because I understand the pain. And if you are young enough and not old as I am now I will tell you a secret. Someday its possible you might see Willie again. In the eyes of another pup or a familiar action or facial expression in a young dog needing to be rescued. Maybe you might catch a glimpse of him shining through a dog needing to be adopted at an adoption fair being held in front of your farm store a day you stop by. Or in a stray that just shows up on your doorstep yet seems to know their way around.
It happens. Its happened to me.
Somewhere on the internet there’s a rainbow bridge site where you can put up a permanent memorial for your pet. And they have an online meeting once a week. To help each other through the grief and pain. To help learn to live with that hole in your heart. Search for it when you are able and maybe it can help.
Amy T. says
Patricia. I met you once, you came to speak at a weekend seminar. I remember you got to the point in your presentation where you showed Luke’s stone and you had to stop, you couldn’t read it out loud, it still hurt so much. I read your book and the incredible bond that you shared with him and I thought, that’s me, that’s me and my Mango. My own beloved, sweet, amazing, border collie, my own forever dog. I looked to your blog last week to find some solace and read about Willie’s diagnosis, another dog who you love so much, so much in your heart. And then I logged on again only to see that you had to lose him so much faster than you thought you would. On Saturday, I had to say goodbye to Mango, my faithful companion for almost 15 years and my heart so much, it aches. I know they are both at peace, running full speed doing all the things they loved to do when their bodies were at their best and I know that they lived a life full of love, oh how they were loved and how they will be missed.
Trisha says
Here’s to Mango, and here’s to you, for having the courage to love him so much.
Kristin says
That looks like the perfect picture, and the perfect caption, for the perfect not-so-perfect dog.
May he visit you in your dreams, soon and often…
Karen says
Oh Trisha, I read this last week and again just now and cried both times. Losing a treasured companion is the great tragedy of having pets. I’ve done it so many times I lost count. But the great sadness is so worth the joy that the give. May your sweet memories of Willie comfort you during this time of sorrow.
Mackenzie says
My heart hurts for your loss. Sending love and healing thoughts❤️
Helene says
I am so sad for your loss. I read your book about Willie some time ago. Your story stays with me. Such a love is beyond measure. Hold dear to the wonderful memories to help you through.
Margret Abbott says
I am so sorry. Giving you a hug.
soyoung says
we mourn your loss and send love from california. i am convinced there is a very special place in heaven for dogs that help us recover from trauma, and vice versa. he was a gift to you and you to him. our deepest condolences to you and your family.
María says
I feel your pain. I cry your tears. I have been there. And reading your blog gets right to my heart and back to when I lost my soulmate, best friend, best assistant, Bonus. It gets better. I still miss him, though, painfully, even after two years. But I feel his presence in the breeze and down the paths we used to run through together, and in the fields and by my bed. I know we will meet again. Bonus and Will will be waiting for us. All the best to you.
Margaret Gomez says
I will admit that I am crying reading of Silly Willie’s passing. I learned of your book after one of my dogs bit my neighbor. After this incident, I was forced to decide between surrendering my 1 year old Layla or breaking my freshly renewed lease. By breaking the lease I just renewed one month earlier, I would lose my deposits which included my pet deposits. I chose Layla – without question or hesitation. I’m happy to share that I reached out on social media and I was reminded of the many animal lovers and supporters in San Antonio Texas and surrounding areas. I was referred to two amazing animal behavior trainers, one Layla and I are currently working with which is fear certified.
I was introduced to The Education of Will, and this was one of the many books I immediately bought and started reading. I remember April 15th very well. I remember reading your book and falling in love with Willie and admiring and respecting your for all that you have chosen to do for you and for others. I feel as though I knew Willie through your book.
I am so very sorry that you are feeling this pain, Patricia. I lost my little Sammy last year. He came home from the vet and just stopped breathing at 12 years old. My heart still cries for him, and I know yours will continue to love and cry for Willie.
I want to thank you for helping me through the trauma of my Layla biting and harming my neighbor. I want to thank you for helping me through all of my self doubt as a doggy mommy. I’ve learned so much from Layla’s behavior trainer and from your books. Only if I knew then what I know now.
Thank you!!! I do hope that I get to meet you and hug you one day! God Bless You
joanna says
I cried reading your post as it brought back my pain of April 7,2018 – without doubt one of the two most painful days of my life. I know what heartache you are going through and nothing makes it easier except to recognize that you showed only LOVE in your decision . There was no other choice to make. It was about Willie .
Jeanne says
Trisha, so sorry for your loss. Willie touched my heart and opened my soul as I read The Education of Will. Sending you and your whole family love and gratitude for all the remarkable work you do for animals.
Christine Bandy says
xo
David says
Patricia
My sincere condolences. We’ve never met, but I read your blog regularly and have read your training manuals and books. Your love for your dogs, cats, and sheep comes through quite clearly. Your explanations and suggestions help me and Xavier – a two year old Havanese – navigate the world together
I remember a making a decision similar to your’s with Willie almost thirty years ago for our family’s dog: Misti – a lovely, playful Maltese. She was so sweet, kind, loving, and happy. She showed her love for us and her joy for life every day. But her health declined. I don’t remember her age: maybe 12? Our vet told us she did not have the quality of life that she’d once had. She was close to blind and had bad arthritis. She seemed disoriented at times – as though she had dementia. My family thought it best that she be put to sleep, but I held out because I felt that she was still happy. I could see that – I thought – on our walks. She still smiled at me. But I gave in after watching her struggle one day. I still feel regret for that decision. I still experience an overwhelming sadness over my decision and her loss. My heart breaks when I remember losing her. She also gave me moments of pure joy and as close to unconditional love as it gets. I remember both. I loved her as best as I could
Wishing you many happy memories of Willie. He loved you and knew you loved him
Jim S. says
Sending love from California, where The Education of Will and Willie’s presence in these blog posts have left a lasting impact on me and my own relationship with my own 4-legged companion.
Thank you for your vulnerability with this community.
Lucille White aka " Granny. Sweets" says
Trisha, We of your community who love our dogs, share the deep love and deep grief that we all hold in common for our precious pets. Willie was obviously one of your “heart dogs” and there are no words that will help. Our caring reaches out to your hurting heart. You have done so much for others, yet it is so little we can do to help you in this hour of pain. What I know for sure is that you will continue to live and teach sweet canines that come to you. I once had a doctor from Guatemala, and in his country, they believed that when you die, there is an extremely wide and deep river you must cross. People are given access to heaven by being helped across the river by all the animals that you helped during your lifetime on earth. Trisha, you won’t even touch the water with the help of all the animals you have aided in your life! I love that concept and appreciate all you & Will, Tulip, Luke, and all the other loves of your life have done to help all of us! Blessings and love to you & Jim! This too shall pass.
Maureen Finn says
That last photo, and sentence beneath it, broke me.
Essa Blue says
I am so so very sorry for your loss. Sweet Willie.
Anna Hassan says
I’m so sorry for your loss. Willie sounds like a great dog
Rachel says
I am so sorry to hear about Willie. Our family also has a beloved 12 and a half year old dog, with lung cancer (metastasized from elsewhere) that hit us totally out of the blue. Her time isn’t here just yet, but when it comes, we know it will be awful and we will never be the same. We are thinking of you and the rest of Willie’s family – both canine and human.
Mary Corbett says
Trisha,
I logged on to buy some training books (I usually end up giving my copies away to other needy dog owners) and I saw your post about Will. I am so devastated for you and Jim. Will is one of those dogs, like Luke, like my Patches, that will always be unforgettable. Take heart, as I read the multitude of outpouring for your loss (above), you are loved and Will will always be remembered.
Take Care –
Mary Corbett
Beth says
I just finished your memoir, and I’m so sorry to hear that Willie has left you. Reading about him reminded me so much of my anxious border collie mix and inspired me to give my Malcolm the best, richest, fear-free-est life he can have. Thank you for sharing Willie’s story, and yours.