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No one needs the stairs to the couch anymore.

Goodbye Tootsie, our adorsable, baby-faced, sweet-natured, always-underfoot, silken-bellied, ear-flapping, anime-eyed, cocaine-infused tiny Dumbo dog who could bark like a seal on laughing gas and whine like an abandoned orphan. No need for the stairs to the couch anymore, but I can’t bring myself to take them to the garage.

We put Tootsie down on July 7th, 2020. She was 16+ years old, had congestive heart failure, was deaf, going blind, and increasingly couldn’t stand up by herself. She couldn’t begin to get up the stairs to the couch by herself anymore. How many times, while sitting on the couch, did I look down to see nothing but huge, pleading eyes in front of a white, wagging tail tip? “Please would you pick me up and help me up to the couch?” Tootsie’s face, in full begging mode, could melt the heart of a stone. But if it didn’t work, she was fully prepared to switch from “Please, sir, may I have another?” to “PICK ME UP or I’ll destroy your ear drums”. This of course, is on me, not her. I let Tootsie train me without hesitation. Reflecting on her seven years in puppy mill hell, I decided I simply didn’t care if a small, sweet, docile dog was a little spoiled. Someone asked me once if I wasn’t giving her “small dog privileges.” I answered: “Yup.”

She was smart, as smart as any Border Collie. The difference was that she used her intelligence in pursuit of three goals: 1) Food, 2) Getting picked up, and 3) More food. And she was sweet–as sweet as spun sugar, cotton candy, cherry pie. I have never known a dog, and I’ve probably known tens of thousands, who I trusted completely, totally, to never hurt a child at the UW Children’s Hospital, where she was a “therapy dog” with the Pet Pal program. (Note: I still put safety first, both for the children, and for her.) She charmed each and every one of our visitors to the farm with the same happy face and sweeping tail. She had no fear of any dog, and spent every evening in her last few months trying to beat Maggie for the kibble that Maggie had worked out of her frozen Kong. (Maggie was a paragon of patience with her.)

Tootsie had an amazing life, from pumping out two litters a year in a puppy mill while living in a filthy corn crib, to raising the spirits of families in crisis at the Children’s Hospital, to being exactly who I had wanted when I got her–a dear, sweet, lovely little creature, whose belly fit my hand as if they were made for each other. Every night for nine years I have sat on the couch and stroked her silken tummy. She was my very own private therapy dog, and my hand, and my heart, ache for her.

We buried her beside Tulip’s grave, in a small, circular flower garden. We will get a stone that says, Tootsie and Tulip, The Great and The Small.

Goodbye my littlest love, my EverReady Battery Bunny dog, who kept going and going and going. I miss you more than I can say.

MEANWHILE, back on the farm: It feels so wrong in the house. Too empty. Empty stairs, empty kitchen, empty arms that have carried Tootsie almost everywhere for six months.

It has helped that the two week nightmare of heat and humidity finally broke on Friday after a two inch rain. The  garden is very happy thank you. The photo below is one of the gardens outside of our living room window.

Skip and I got to work on Saturday at a clinic outside of Portage. I’m covered up like an English maiden avoiding the sun because I’m on Doxy due to a bulls-eye rash after a tick bite. Pay attention to the instructions to stay out of the sun while you’re on it: I got a bad sunburn on my back through the shirt. Yes, that’s what I said: Through the shirt.

We’re working on driving here. Skip is a talented dog for sure, but he’s young and, like all dogs, isn’t perfect, and I have my work cut out to up my skill level to bring out the best of him.

 

And finally, this is a grainy photo because of low light, but it’s the last picture we have of Toots, and so I will always treasure it. Goodbye Tootsie, Toot Toot, Tooters . . . We are so lucky to have had you in our life.

Comments

  1. Tammy says

    So sorry for the loss of your Tootsie. Thanks for sharing your love for her with us.

  2. Diane says

    It seems all your dogs tug at my heart. So when you lose one, I can’t help but cry.
    Sweet little Tootsie.
    I am sorry. I am glad she found a wonderful home and life with you.

  3. Ashley says

    Dr. McConnell, I’m so sorry for your loss and so grateful to you for sharing what you loved about Tootsie. I am currently reading your Puppy Primer to prepare for a new arrival–a small-breed purebred dog (due to a desire to limit allergens in our home). I’ve only ever had medium to big herding-mutt dogs before and I’m so worried that I won’t know how to love this new one in quite the same way. This post is ample testimony to the ability of a little one to capture your heart and provide, if not the same experience, then different pleasures than my previous loves have. A great reminder to focus not on what I’ll miss out on but what I’ll gain.

  4. LisaW says

    Ohh, so sorry for you all. I will always think of her as the Andy Rooney of dogs. Peace, Tootsie, good girl.

  5. Frances says

    I am so sorry – even when we know the time is right it hurts like hell. I remember when you first brought her home – can it really be 9 years ago? You said you wanted an oxytocin pump dog, and that is what you got – and she got 9 years of bliss, with a trainable human and lots of food and treats. One wonders who she could have been had she known nothing but kindness and fun from birth, but her gentleness with children is testament to the depth of her kind nature, and her happiness to your skill as a trainer and behaviourist, guiding her into a bigger, more challenging world than she had ever known.

    And Oh, I hear you on the food obsession. Poppy has always been a gannet with a deep love of food, but since she has been on steroids it has become her primary focus. I knew life was going to get difficult when she wolfed the pickled cornichon I dropped… On the plus side it makes giving her all her various medications very easy!

  6. Kayla Fratt says

    I’m so sorry to hear about Toots. She always made me smile. It’s clear you were fabulous for each other. Give Maggie and Skip a bit of extra love – and yourself too, of course.

  7. Christine says

    You have written so beautifully about Tootsie. Despite her horrible start to life, she had a wonderful life with you and I can tell how much you loved her. I hope the memories you have will help you now and in the future.

  8. Debby Gray says

    So sorry about Tootsie. What a little love bug! And how wonderful that you made the second half of her life so full of love. I hope she totally erased her early years from her memory..
    What an appropriate resting place she has. I hope all of you recover soon from the acute feeling of loss. I know we never recover completely from that hole in your heart even as we fill it with many happy memories.

  9. Barbara says

    What a gorgeous photo of Tootsie! Your little sweetheart actually looks quite regal and attentive with her nose in the air. Might there have been a piece of chicken nearby? So glad she could spend the final years of her life being loved and treated the way she deserved to be. Sorry for your loss.

  10. Janice in GA says

    They stay in our hearts forever. Especially the good ones.

    Run free, sweet little dog.

  11. Kat says

    You gave her an amazing life and a long one. It seems on the one hand strange to shed tears for a dog I’ve never met but on the other very fitting since I’ve known her through your stories for so many years now. With deepest sympathy.

  13. Rosemary says

    My heart hurts for you. Tootsie is very lucky to have found you to spend her golden years with. She always looked very happy in your posts and pictures of her. All dogs go to heaven.
    I just had a scare with my golden and this post literally brought me to tears. I am so sorry Trisha.

  14. Marc Scher says

    I am sorry for your loss Dr.Mcconnell. Thank you for sharing all your stories with us.
    Marc Scher

  15. Chris from Boise says

    Ah, Trisha – so sorry to hear that Tootsie has passed. That little girl leaves a surprisingly big hole in the world. You both won the lottery when you found each other. Peace be with you all.

    And glad you’re taking care of that tick bite.

  16. Nancy says

    It hurts like heck when they go and I’m so sorry. What a blessing you were to Tootsie, to give her a great home and to spoil her.

  17. Phoebe's Mum says

    Dear Trish,
    So sorry to read you’ve had to let Toots go. It’s always such a painful decision but how lucky she was to have found you: her years with you were already like heaven and now she’s gone on to the next step of heaven. Only you are suffering. She’s just fine now. And your heart will mend in time.

  18. Teddy says

    I am so sorry to read this. But it feels like a very long time ago now that you wrote that this day might be coming soon, yet you managed to lovingly give her quite a bit more time. When I saw what today’s post was about, I felt so sad for you, and your description of belly rubs and your empty arms finished me off. It took me several days (how long? I don’t recall now) to take up the mosaic of yoga mats we’d put down for our dog with DM after we let her go, so I can understand leaving the stairs for a while. I am so glad you have Maggie and Skip (who look like they are grieving too, in that first photo). Take care of each other. Good, good girl, Tootsie!

  21. Corinne says

    How very fortunate you were to have each other, and how wonderful that your beautiful Tootsie was finally appreciated for her gentleness and pure heart. Our time with them is never long enough and I’m sorry.

  22. Allison says

    I am so sorry for your loss. My heart breaks for you. Words won’t make it better, but at least you have tons of memories to keep her alive in your heart.

  24. Barbara A Body says

    I have it on good authority that Tootsie was met at the other side of the rainbow by an honor guard of animals, including my dogs. She could see again and move every which way, including jumping onto St Francis’ lap! St Francis told her she could eat all she wanted she immediately gave him a love nudge and asked for a treat- no pleading eyes necessary. He can read everyone’s thoughts. She thought about being a young dog but decided that life was best put away forever. She’s decided to be 7 – forever because that’s when you came into her life giving her the first heaven.

  25. pat says

    So sorry to hear of tootsie’s passing/Like all your dogs, I know how you loved her

  26. Mary says

    I’m so sorry for your loss. The pain is one of the prices we pay for loving these wonderful creatures that never, never live long enough.

  27. Mel says

    I am so very sorry for your lossPatricia. Daisy was my mill dog, and my heart still aches for her two years later. I hope the happy memories comfort you. Tootsie clearly had a wonderful life with you. What a lucky girl she was to escape the mill and have such a blessed last half of her life. Sending you love and understanding.

  28. Christine says

    I’m so sorry to read of your loss of sweet Tootsie. What a lovely tribute you have written about her and your life together. I will pray that St. Francis holds her in his loving embrace until your paths cross again. I am doing the same for my girl, Minna–an 11.5 yo GSD with late-stage DM who we plan to say good-bye to on 7/22. She has been our faithful companion, a healer during times of grief, and a source of pure joy and love throughout her life. Your poetic words bring home all the emotions at play when these wonderful creatures leave us–thank you for sharing your thoughts and reflections. My best to you.

  29. Rona says

    So very, very sorry for your loss. It is the very hardest and saddest part of sharing our lives with these little furry companions.

  30. Margo Harris says

    Your last photo of Tootsie is a treasure.
    My condolences…my heart goes out to you.
    Such a lucky little doggie to have a wonderful life with you!

  31. Sue says

    You gave a puppy mill Cavalier 16 years!?!
    (nine of them in heaven sharing your life after her seven in hell)
    Trish, you are magic as well as love.

  32. Susan Hinson says

    I’m so sorry to hear this. Their passing is the only time they break our hearts ❤️🐾

  33. Jodi Grzeczka says

    Patricia, so sorry for your loss. Each of our animals are so special in their own way, and this baby was no exception. Find peace in knowing the last nine years were a gift for her, and she certainly earned a Place of Honor beyond the Rainbow Bridge. Hugs.

  34. Nana911 says

    Oh Trisha, I am so sorry! You gave her the BEST life! And she knew you rescued her from hell. So know that even though she was blind, every time she gazed up at you, she saw nothing but love.

  35. Jen Gibson says

    Darn it! Crying alongside you and everyone else. You were lucky to have each other. Virtual hugs.

  36. alk says

    Oh I am so sorry for your loss. Through your stories and photos it appears that both of you gave each other your best. I am so glad tootsie spent her post puppy mill life in your wonderful care.

  38. Fran Berry says

    Oh Trish,
    I’m so sorry for your loss. These beautiful animals are never here long enough.
    Sending good wishes to heal your broken heart.

  39. Heidrun says

    I’m really sorry for your loss.
    But I want to thank you for the love letter you wrote about Tootsie to all of us.
    To be able to see what makes a particular dog special and wonderful is a true gift.

  40. Ayn says

    My fondest thoughts and prayers go out to you on loss of Tootie. As always, you have over the years so eloquently recorded her sweet life. What a lucky little dog to have had you in her life. Thank you for sharing her with us. May she find all the food, friends, and pleasures she could ever desire over the rainbow bridge.

  41. KC Wilson says

    I really do feel your pain and loss. You give your dogs the best life ever and for that they thank you each and every day.

  45. Steph B. says

    I’m so sorry for your loss. I loved hearing stories about Tootsie. Our first dog was a Cavalier and I hope we have another someday – there’s so much to be said for having a cheerful, sweet little dog in the house. I empathize with the feeling of emptiness, and hope that it passes for you and turns to memories of where your dog used to be instead of gaps where your heart feels she still should be. Wishing you and Jim peace and strength.

  46. Shari Goldfarb says

    I’m so sorry… You gave her a wonderful life, and she gave you lots of love and laughter in return.

  48. Christy Paxton says

    Oh my, I am feeling this acutely having lost my precious girl on June 17 (16 years together, not one day apart). I am slowly clearing out her things. Have not touched her leash and harness, and don’t know when I’ll be able to. Hugs to you.

  49. Trisha says

    I’m so sorry Christy. I so get it about her leash, etc. I buried Tootsie without taking off her collar and I’m sick about it. I have all my dogs collars, even those of my mother’s dog. Take your time, and hugs back.

  50. Judy says

    can’t read about losing a dog without tears. it’s the hardest part of living with dogs and I wouldn’t trade a minute for skipping the hard part. Love to you and the rest of your family.

  51. Charisse says

    So sorry that Tootsie is longer beside you physically, but now forever in your heart. Some dogs seem to get under our skins in a different fashion than others, and it sounds like your sweet girl did just that. You were both better for having each other in your lives. Spaniels are just so darn sweet, yet demanding but entertaining. Hard not to indulge them, and I bet she knew she lived the good life with you.

  52. Judy Rivard says

    I am so sorry for your loss. I am too well acquainted with the pain, so will pray for comfort for you. We are so blessed to have these treasures in our lives. Virtual hugs.

  53. Carolyn Turner says

    I’m so sorry for your loss. There’s such a hole when they leave, even when it’s definitely time. You gave her an absolutely wonderful life.

    We lost one dog May 19 and another June 5, leaving us with one. One June 28, we adopted a new girl. Supposedly a lab (Embark test has been mailed). Maybe it was too soon, but the house was so empty, and our one guy was so lonely.

  55. Vickie Julka says

    Find comfort knowing that Tootsie will meet our gentle yellow lab, Jack in doggy heaven. He will take care of her and make her smile again. Hugs to you and your family, both humans and animals. Tootsie will be missed.

  57. Trisha says

    Hugs to you Vickie, please send my regards to Mr. Jack. So sorry he’s not with you, but Toots and Jack and cuddle up . . .

  58. Trisha says

    Carolyn: Two in less than a month? Oh god, I’m so sorry. Congratulations on your new one though, how exciting!

  59. Karen from Oregon says

    My condolences to you and Jim and the BCs. My b&w Shih Tzu turns 11 next month and I can’t imagine my life without her in a few years. She’s my everything!

  62. Maure3n says

    I cried while reading your post. Tootsie knew how much she is loved. They just don’t live long enough, I still miss my last border Collie everyday. Prayers

  64. Tails Around the Ranch says

    I’m so sorry for your loss. They may be gone physically but they always remain buried deeply in our hearts. May all the tender moments of your sweet companion provide a measure of comfort as you stare heartbroken at those stairs. 💔

  65. Maegan says

    So sorry for loss, Patricia. You clearly gave her many wonderful years. Absolutely love “Tootsie and Tulip, The Great and The Small.” ♥

    Beautiful garden; clearly thrived from a good watering!

    Thinking of you xx

  67. Laura says

    Sending huge hugs! I am so sorry that you lost your baby girl. I can’t say anything else which hasn’t already been said here, they are never with us long enough. Hug the other dogs, and give yourself time.

  68. Molla Braunstein says

    I am so sorry for your loss. We have two CKS and had two others that we miss dearly. What a long life for Tootsie who was not only from a mill but a breed with so many medical issues. What is your secret? Mine are eleven now and I am grateful for each day left. Prior to our Cavaliers, I had two Border Collie mixes, so reading your posts has been very special. I don’t know what I would do without the company of my sweeties. Our third Cavalier passed away last year and I still miss him very much. We adopted him at age nine (we were told he was seven) and he was just the best friend to my other two. I can see him running body to body with my boy; such sweetness. Hoping for another border collie or border collie mix in the future. Again, I am so sorry for the loss of little Tootsie.

  69. Linda says

    A beautiful last photo. Reminds me of a child’s most loved toy. Thank you for sharing her with us.

  70. Gayla says

    She was so blessed to have had you and Jim save her, and then continue to protect her from all harm, for the rest of her long life…
    My heart goes out to you both!

  71. Margo Harris says

    Trisha, sorry you don’t have Tootsie’s collar…but you do have HER in your heart, always.
    Maybe her stairs to the couch are what you can keep near by to smile over! Sometimes I sort of “re-purpose” some article that one of my animals used, and that way I feel closer to them. Or I simply keep whatever it is close. I would say that the stairs she used to get up close and snuggle with you, are wonderful.

  72. Robin V says

    So so very sorry for your heart wrenching loss. She had a life of blissful love with you. It couldn’t be any better than that. I think the couch stairs look perfect right where they are. ♥️♥️

  73. Kandy says

    So very sorry. She sds like a beautiful soul. They teach us all of the important lessons of life and leave way too soon.
    She’ll be waiting at the Bridge as I pray all of my angels will be.
    Hugs to you!

  74. Carolyn DeFiore says

    That final photo, final comments, made me teary and I never even met her. But I have 2 Cavs, and they are everything you describe Tootsie to be. You may have been lucky to have her, but she was also very lucky to have you come along and give her the best final years. Sending you a hug for you broken heart. Run free little Tootsie.

  76. LisaW says

    We just had to put Phoebe down, I’m more than sorry to say. She was a dog with no hip structure who lived 15+ years. She was seriously allergic to bee stings and part of the DHPP vaccine. She loved to goose people who were silly enough to wear skirts, and she was a true space-cadet peacenik. She forgot to read the chapter in the good dog book that said labs love the water. She was stubborn, irreverent, and goofy to the core. She was the one who led me here as I searched for ways to work with her that would be relevant and last, so thank you for everything, Phoebe. I am forever grateful for all of it.

  77. Trisha says

    Oh oh oh Phoebe! LisaW I am so so sorry. What a novel Phoebe wrote with you. She was such a lucky girl to find you.

  78. Roberta says

    I’m so sorry for your loss of Tootsie. I didn’t realize how old she was, but did know she was endearing. I sent my own Energiz-Her Beagle, Miss Annie, to Heaven last month. Will always miss her as you miss Tootsie and Tulip. What great hearts they give us! Godspeed, Tootsie!

  79. Heidi says

    I am so sorry for your loss of the sweet Tootsie. I loved the wonderful pictures you shared of her in your post about “loving not always liking our dogs.” Tootsie was certainly a charmer. Your stories of her remind me of my Cairn Pixie who came from a puppymill when she was three. Pixie was so shy and sweet when she arrived in my home to be fostered and then just blossomed into a lovely, feisty little terrier. She was truly my happy thought — every time I looked at her, she made me smile. She passed away in 2015, and I still miss her. Sometimes these sweet gems come to us at just the right time to be treasured in our hearts forever. What a blessing to know that you made Tootsie’s life complete in giving her a loving home and letting her be just a little bit spoiled.

  80. Betsy says

    I’m so sorry for your loss. Tears seem so close to the surface these days, don’t they? I will always remember your long patient journey to housetrain Tootsie. I used your stories to keep encouraging my clients to stay patient and loving with their dogs through the process. So Tootsie helped many far away dogs as well as people too. ❤️

  81. Leslie Sachlis says

    My thoughts and prayers are with you and yours for your loss and for that bulls eye rash. Tootsie was such a lucky pup to go from a puppy mill to a little piece of heaven here on earth living with you, Jim and the pups. She could not have been better understood or loved. Now she leaves all of the trappings of age and illness behind her. One day there will be a grand reunion and then she can have a very special tummy rub. I am so sorry for your loss. Please take care of everything that goes with that bulls eye. I had one in 1998. It changed my life. I pray your heart and body heal completely.

  82. Serisse says

    Oh no! I’m so sorry to hear about Tootsie, and even sadder that she had to be put down on the 7th as that was my birthday :(. I hate that a happy day for me had to be a heartbreaking one for you.

  83. Andrea says

    I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing Tootsie and so much of yourself and your knowledge with the world. You are a beautiful soul.

  85. Chris from Boise says

    Oh LisaW – my deepest sympathy on Phoebe’s passing. How will Olive handle being solo dog? I have loved hearing about your journey with both. Phoebe was a wonder dog who never let her infirmities stop her, and a masterful teacher in her own right. Big hugs.

    And to all the others who have lost dogs recently (or not-so-recently): my sympathies to all of you, too. This community knows how hard it is to let them go.

  87. Nicola says

    Hugs to you Trisha, and Jim (Maggie not so much, I think). You did a wonderful thing bringing Tootsie into your home and giving her the best life possible after her awful start. Think on that when the blues come. And give yourself time to grieve. I lost the first of my old dogs 7th November 2014, the last 28th May, 2018. I just took down their three caskets from my living room. They had formed a private ‘chapel’ area for those years. I still would walk by and pat them, or whisper sweet nothings to them after all this time. Even though it has been less than a week, I miss those rituals. But for me, it is time to say the final goodbye and put them in their boxes with special toys, coats and certificates and ribbons. Rest in peace, Tootsie, Buffy, Poppy and Tam

  88. Adrienne K. says

    I am so sorry for your loss. I know that feeling of emptiness and sorrow all too well. Many of us have experienced losing a four legged member or our family not once but several times throughout our lives. Recovery from their loss is not our goal but rather cultivation of the memories and lessons that have been lovingly granted to us from sharing our lives with them.

    ut no matter what we seem to always go back for more. Because we know that is who we are, pet parents, and life just is incomplete with our companions.

  89. Maria says

    Oh, Trisha, you have my deepest condolences on your loss! Sweet Tootsie, sweet as candy, sweet as sugar. I think it’s a Cavalier breed trait, because I’ve never met a Cavalier that didn’t have at least a touch of that sweetness, no matter what other mischief may have been shining in his/her eyes.

    I’m weeping for you and your loss of Tootsie, but I’m also weeping for the loss of my own Cavalier, 5 years ago now. You never stop missing your beloved dogs.

  90. Alice R. says

    There are no words sufficient or big enough to speak to this, but dog lovers know heart to heart. I’m so sorry.

  91. Jeanne says

    Trisha & Jim, our hearts hurt with yours. No amount of time is enough, even when it needs to be. Lucky pup, to be so loved.

  92. Wanda says

    Those final good byes are heart breakers for sure. I, too, rescued a puppy mill Cavalier, Jewel. Through lots of patience, we managed to get her potty trained. After checking on line, I was convinced she suffered with Cushing’s disease. Told the vet I would pay for the expensive test no matter what. Once on the proper meds, she perked up and was almost a different dog. A person can know true love by looking into the eyes of a Cavalier. Loved her to the end when she breathed her last breath in my arms. I feel you loss. Surely your sadness can be relieved by knowing you gave her the best years of her life. People who love dogs and are loved back, especially by a Cavalier, are blessed.

  93. Honey Loring says

    My first little dog was a rescue poodle mix He taught me that there is a spot in your heart that only a little can fit into. Still miss him a lot.

    Isn’t it amazing that Tootsie lived to be 16, a puppy mill dog, when our well-bred cavaliers hardly ever do? What a life you gave her and what comfort and laughs she gave you. It’s so terrible having to say goodbye, but I couldn’t/wouldn’t want to live without dogs.

    Heartfelt (and socially distant) hugs, Trisha, Honey Loring

  94. j says

    Don’t move those steps. They’re still fine right where they are. Your heart will tell you when they are not needed anymore. Grief moves on its own time.

  95. Diane Mattson says

    I’m so sorry to read about Tootsie, but glad she had good years with you. I’ll miss the Tootsie tales and pictures.

    And yes, she deserved to be spoiled. ❤️
    Lovely, sweet little girl. I have tears in my eyes.

  96. Debra Moody says

    I remember when you wrote about the loss of Tulip…How incredibly fitting that Sweet Tootsie is laid to rest next to the Gentle Giant. The Great and The Small, indeed. Bless you, Dr. McConnell, for sharing your world with us. We are the better for it.

  99. HFR says

    I’m just seeing this. I’m so, so sorry for your loss. I will always remember your post about Tootsie’s eyebrows and the side by side pix of her with and without. For some reason that’s always stuck with me as a very clear lesson in how easy it is to misjudge impressions. Run free, Toots.

  100. Marlene says

    I, too, am late to read this but soooo sorry for your loss of such a sweet angel deserving of your spoiling.❤
    Your losses touch my heart as I follow their lives & adventures with you. Thank you for always sharing. Hug your Borders & let them comfort you in the ways that all our dogs do.

  101. Margaret Eckert says

    So very sorry for your precious Tootsies passing, I wonder if we will be able to get over the rainbow bridge for the throngs of our babies waiting for us. Prayers and hugs!

  102. liz says

    My heartfelt condolences.
    Irish and Celtic lore explain black butterflies as carrying the souls of the departed, visiting the places that made them happy on earth. If so, we could view your Eastern Black Swallowtail as Tootsie joining you in the garden.
    So sorry for your loss.

  104. Nic1 says

    Ah, that’s sad news indeed Trisha. My thoughts are with you. She was so lucky to find her way into your hearts and your lap. Run free Toots and say hi to Willie. 🌈 🌉 I loved reading about her over the years. Dogs just don’t live for long enough do they….but they live on in our memories and hearts.

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