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Why are some People more comfortable around animals?

February 4, 2009 >> 116 Comments

There’s an interesting discussion going on, on-line, in my university course right now. One of the students asked why some people like non-human animals more than they do members of their own species. There are some extremely interesting comments posted to that question, especially about animals being ‘innocents’ rather than moral agents who can choose to be cruel.

The question, and other potential answers, reminded me of an essay I wrote in Dog is My Co-Pilot, titled “Love is Never Having to Say Anything at All.” In it I argue that one of the reasons we love dogs so much is that, well, because they can’t talk. As I write in the essay: “Words may be wonderful things, but they carry weight with them, and there’s a great lightness of being when they are discarded.” Of course, this appliesall to animals, not just dogs.

Surely there are many other reasons that so many of us are especially comfortable around animals, whether it is dogs or members of another species: so much research attests to the lack of social anxiety that is normal in human-human interactions being absent in the presence of another species (heart rate decreases in the presence of non-human animal, even fish; cortisol decreases while petting a dog (but may increase in the dog!) etc etc. But I’m curious–how many of you feel especially comfortable around animals compared to people? How many feel more comfortable around animals than around people, even friendly, familiar ones? And if so, why do YOU think that might be true?

Meanwhile, back at the farm, it was 9 below this morning, and windy. You’d think we’d all be used to the cold by now, but it felt especially difficult to me last night when I fed the lactating ewes for the last time around 9:30 pm. The cold requires a lot of energy from the sheep, even though they are masters at keeping themselves warm.  Snickers and Truffles, the ewes with lambs, are starting to lose weight, no doubt in part because it takes so much energy for them to stay warm. But most ewes lose weight while they lactate: their lambs begin to put an incredible amount of nutritional pressure on them, so I’m giving the ewes ridiculous quantities of alfalfa hay along with supplemental corn, oats and a protein pellet. I wish they could be eating grass, but that’s a long way off. However, it’s supposed to go into the 40’s by Friday. I can’t imagine.  Here’s what it looks like now:

Patricia McConnell\'s farm

And just for contrast, here’s another absurdly colorful and ridiculously structured orchid from the orchid show last weekend–I think I’ll look at this photo every day after reading bad news, yet again, about our economy. You have to admit, isn’t this just the most joyfully amazing thing?

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Comments

  1. Kathy Blough says

    February 4, 2009 at 4:51 pm

    Count me as one person who is more comfortable around dogs than people. I don’t know why. Relief from the pressure of conversation, as you suggest, could be a reason. Also, perhaps, because dogs are genuine; what you see is what you get. And dogs are not judgmental – I never worry about what my dogs think about me for doing some stupid thing.

    The “moral agents who can choose to be cruel” argument doesn’t work for me. I know some wonderful people who would never, intentionally, do a single cruel thing. But I still would rather be with my dogs!

  2. Kelly Ladouceur says

    February 4, 2009 at 5:23 pm

    The first thing that comes to mind for me is that animals don’t lie. They don’t pretend to like you, they either do or they don’t. There is nothing false about them (except for when they’re pretending that they never get fed, like my Cockers do). They don’t disappoint. They don’t forget special occasions because every day with us is treated like a special occasion by them. Other than when they die, they don’t break our hearts.

    I have some very dear friends that I wouldn’t trade for the world. But my dogs are the ones I turn to for comfort and companionship. Whatever I want to do, the dogs are willing to accomodate me. I want to read? As long as 3 Cockers fit in the chair with me, they’ll sit with me all day long. I want to play? Bring it on! I’m feeling sick? They will surround me in bed (or on the couch) to ensure I’m okay.

    Even when I’m cranky and crabby, the dogs wag their tails and smile. Even if I yelled at them 5 minutes ago, they come running, eyes full of love. Even if everybody else thinks I’m a witch, the dogs never do.

    I think some people feel like they need MORE. Words, give and take, whatever. And those people, who crave more, may not be as comfortable with animals. This is ironic, since they give everything. But non-animal people just don’t get that.

  3. kim g says

    February 4, 2009 at 7:21 pm

    i do feel more comfortable around my dogs than people. 1 they dont judge me. 2. they need me. 3. they keep me warm at night 4 always willing to give hugs and kisses and happy to see me 5. they make me get out and exercise with them and walk with them and that always draws people to me which forces me to talk with neighbors and strangers and they make them feel good too, all 6 dogs i love them dearly.

  4. Mim Golub Scalin says

    February 4, 2009 at 8:58 pm

    Thank you for the lovely snowy photo. We have no snow here just cold temperatures (very cold for us at 27) Yes, the orchid is gorgeous and what a treat for winter. My best to all the critters.

  5. Carolyn says

    February 4, 2009 at 9:06 pm

    I know that I always feel more comfortable around animals, mainly because I find them so much easier to read than humans. They don’t notice verbal gaffes or bad hair and seem happier when you’re covered in their hair/feathers and smell like a barn. I was a therapeutic horseback riding instructor for a while and got to see firsthand how people who couldn’t (or wouldn’t) respond to human interaction became fast friends with a pony, goat, dog, or cat.

    The bigger mystery to me is how people can say that they don’t like animals and don’t want to be near them at all. At my last job, the head of the company and his wife (also at the same company) would have no trouble telling you that companion animals were just annoying and a source of dirt and messes in the house. They even had three boys, and I was always tempted to tell them that most pets would be a whole lot cleaner than any of their human children!

  6. Jennifer Hamilton says

    February 5, 2009 at 12:49 am

    Wow. This is a question I’ve pondered my entire life. As long as I can remember being alive (some where around 2-3 years old), I had an affinity to animals. I had pet everythings…spiders, crayfish, catepillars, bunnies, turtles, dogs, cats. They all touched a special place in me. While my friends were off playing doctor/nurse, I was playing veterinarian. The many dolls given to me, all remained untouched in the closet in their original packaging. As a young adult, whenever hearing or reading of a car accident where people and animals were involved, it was only the animals that brought tears and concern to my heart. I’ve never been drawn to human babies or had any of my own, but if there’s a dog or a cat someone’s home, I’m on the floor winning it over. It’s just what everything in my body wants to do. At times, I’ve felt guilty about my over the top compassion for animals and seeming lack there of for people, but I’ve come to realize, it’s just who I am even though I can’t explain why.

    If these memories weren’t so vivid and so distinctly different from my peers since the time I can remember, I would say it had to do with many of the points you made in your post. The theories your colleagues put forward, however, can’t fully explain why at age 3, a stuffed animal had overwhelming value and a doll had none. Why a crayfish would touch my heart but a baby seemed to be simply an object with moving parts. I’ve always thought there had to be a more primitive explanation to the unstoppable emotions at play for those of us with this “condition” seemingly from birth.

    It all finally made sense to me when I read the last chapter of Jean Donaldson’s book “Oh, Behave!” entitled “Dog Moms and Other Evoluntionary Misfires”. She suggests that people like me may experience the same suite of brain chemicals (oxytocin, vasopressin, dopamine, serotonin and norepinephrin) that mothers experience when nuturing their babies. She suggests that, from a gene’s point of view, directing resources at puppies over a baby is a collosal misfire. She also suggests that this neurochemistry mutation may get switched on in only certain individuals. She further adds that she will be pondering this hypothesis on the way to her dog’s birthday party the next day…suggesting her genes may be just as mutated as the rest of ours.

    While I don’t know if Jean, or the resources she references, are right or wrong about this, I do know that when I read her possible explanation it was like the sea parted and everything made sense. It was like somebody finally “got me”.

    So, I might well be a genetic mutation…it’s the only way I can explain my often irrational attention to the non-human portion of the animal kingdom. It’s not that I don’t love my many friends and family, I love them very much. It’s just that they don’t cause the same raw and overwhelming swell of emotions that my dog does. I guess my gene pool will just have to accept that it got the short end of the stick (i.e. no pro-creating for me)…but that’s perfectly ok by me as long as I there are enough animals on this planet for all of us mutants to share.

  7. Holly says

    February 5, 2009 at 1:40 am

    we too have bitter cold again tonight. The dogs went out and came right back in. The pellet stove cannot keep up with this kind of cold so the furnace kicks on too. Brrrrr.

    Can sheep have beet pulp? If so, you might try one bag, I give it to all of our horses. The gelding and my mare are air ferns but Courts mare is not. It’s the only feed I found that will keep weight up to where it should be, not wreck the calcium/phosphorus balance and does not make the animals “hot” to handle. It also adds water to their diet and I imagine that would be a bonus for nursing mothers too.

    I make my beet pulp up with equal amounts of water and let it sit in the heated office at the barn for 2-3 hours, then it’s soft and fluffy.

  8. Kerry L. says

    February 5, 2009 at 10:39 am

    Good morning, One of the reasons I find being with my animals so comfortable is that they have no expectations of me. The needs they have are few, simple and reasonable; good food, water, medical care, exercise, companionship and playtime, and even if I’m unable to meet a need (like outside exercise when the temperature is -20), they don’t hold a grudge. On the other hand, the expectations that my housemates, friends, employers, co-workers, etc., have of me are often complicated, hidden and sometimes even unreasonable. The animals is my life have no hidden agendas. Kerry

  9. Keli says

    February 5, 2009 at 2:53 pm

    I agree with Kerry – animals have no expectations, no hidden agendas! You sometimes don’t know what other humans are thinking because they are such good actors! No acting in the animal world (well probably 99%).
    Love the orchid photo. My first thought was – look at those colorful beetles climbing up that branch! Guess if I was a wild animal looking for something tasty to eat, I might pass on those scary beetles!
    Keli

  10. Pai says

    February 5, 2009 at 3:59 pm

    I have to say my experience has been very similar to Jennifer’s. Even when I was a little girl, I liked toy animals best, not dolls. Babies evoke no big emotional response or interest from me — something that makes me feel bad sometimes.

    But when I see an animal, I’m filled with affection and interest in them. I’ve never been a very talkative or gregarious person, but with other dog owners or towards the animals themselves I can blab for hours. I just feel more at ease with them, and don’t have to worry about making social faux pas or embarassing myself around them.

  11. ABandMM says

    February 5, 2009 at 6:14 pm

    “Dog Moms and other Evolutionary misfires”. The summary of that chapter hit very close to home and I now have another book to put on my reading list. Thanks Jennifer :).

    Yes, count me in among the humans that are more comfortable being around dogs. I never have been a social person (I hate large gatherings) and am very introverted. I grew up around dogs and guinea pigs and never had the opportunity to interact (other than the occasional petting zoo) with other animals. I really enjoy the companionship of dogs, especially how happy they are to see you when you get home. Even if they have raided the trash (which I have a feeling happened today because I forgot to secure it on the way out), I’m just so happy to be able to get a big “dog hug” (and a good up/down sniffing over!).

    I love the unconditional love they have for you. Both my dogs have been adopted from animal shelters and indicate that if you treat an animal humanely and with love they will we respond positively to that. Maybe it is their “child-like” innocence that attracts me. Maybe it is their ability to “forgive” and be able to still give love and affection even when they have been living on the streets, in/out of animal shelters or tied to a fence.

    Although I am an introvert, I do have a strong desire to “nurture” and I guess dogs and GPs fill that role in my life. I know they need a safe place to live, good nutrition and vet care, love and exercise. The latter has been especially helpful to me in that it really does force me to go out and explore new opportunities and activities. I have moved around quite a bit in my life and new places are less intimidating if you are checking them out with your loyal dog at your side rather than by yourself. Often times my dogs have been the “ice breaker’ that have enabled me to meet new people, be it in the neighborhood, or at “dog school”.

    Then again the tacit support they give you when everything in your life seems upside down, confusing and you have not clue what to do next is absolutely priceless. I just hope they feel something remotely similar towards me (us).

  12. Rose T. says

    February 5, 2009 at 6:35 pm

    I’ve always loved animals best for my entire life. Maybe it’s because they don’t judge. They don’t care what you look like, or what kind of job you have. They are just happy to see you everytime you walk through the door – no questions asked.

  13. Karen says

    February 5, 2009 at 7:11 pm

    I think Jennifer said what I feel really well. I feel nothing when I see a baby and honestly prefer not to touch them until they’re about 2 years old and then they’re fun to play with kind of in the same way that dogs are – you can let loose with them and they’ll enjoy it as much as you do and won’t tell you how undignified you look in the process. I do find human behavior interesting though.

    I cannot walk past a puppy or kitten without asking if I can say hi. The draw is just tremendous.

    I knew when I was a child that I didn’t want children and I remember asking my mom when I was 16 if I could get my tubes tied and she told me, rightly, that I was too young to make that decision. I haven’t wavered from that decision in the 27 years since then. On the other hand, a life without animals for companionship would be terribly lonely.

    I can list my rational reasons for liking animals, but it goes far deeper than that for me. I have 4 cats and 2 dogs and I virtually always have at least 3 of them in whatever room I’m in, however briefly. It’s heaven.

  14. Becky says

    February 5, 2009 at 9:56 pm

    Hmm, very interesting discussion. I have two dogs and have had dogs now for the last 24 years. I love animals, but have a very special place in my heart for dogs. After my husband and I got married we got a golden retriever pup. I loved that dog so much that when I got pregnant with my first child I said to a friend (who already had kids) that I was worried that I wouldn’t love my baby as much as I did my dog. She nearly had a fit and told me not to be ridiculous. Well, she was right to an extent. When my baby was born I loved him and my wonderful puppy went back to being a dog. I still loved him, but not like I did my son. There was a difference.

    However, now that my two children are pretty much grown, my dogs have regained their place and importance in my life. They’ve always been my buddies, but the kids came first. Now, once again they are my constant companions when I’m at home. They always want to go on adventures and they comfort me when I’m sad. They need me and appreciate everything I do for and with them. I don’t have an answer to why my dogs mean so much to me and why I often pick them over people to be with, but maybe a good part of it is they simply make me happy and their love is so unconditional.

  15. Jackie Elpers says

    February 6, 2009 at 10:03 am

    My experience has been similar to Jennifer’s as well, although I have had a child and now have three grandchildren that I love dearly. The love for my human family is strong but different from my love for my cats and — especially — my dog. I too have wondered about this, and tend to attribute it to the same things other commenters have mentioned. I know I am strongly introverted, and do believe my difficulties with human interaction certainly contribute to the strength of my feelings for animals. Are there any strong extroverts who have the feelings described in these comments for animals??

  16. Rio says

    February 6, 2009 at 10:29 am

    Part of it is the heaviness that modern industrial culture imparts to humans. Animals aren’t as burdened by it. Of course, most humans will disagree with this. I offer as evidence two points. 1. Native peoples who live closer to their traditional ways are much more cheerful and laugh more often than your average person. I know this from personal experience. 2. My friend who lives very simply in a cabin in the woods (going on two decades now) is the happiest person I know.

  17. Michelle says

    February 6, 2009 at 2:36 pm

    I think, for me, it’s the inherent lack of judgment that animals possess. My dog doesn’t care if I’m fat, if my hair is messy, if my teeth are crooked. She doesn’t care if I made a huge mistake at work or made a fool out of myself in front of friends. She won’t berate me for something I did a year or two or five ago. She’s just there, desperate for belly rubs and food.

    This, of course, ties into the fact that she cannot talk. If she could, if she possessed the ability to use language as humans do, she might very well development those very judgments and be as off-putting and worrying as some people are.

    Much of it is also tied into the aspect of touch. Human beings LOVE to touch, especially when they’ve had a rotten day or are feeling down. But you can’t always get that from another human being. Sometimes people don’t want to be touched or to touch. Sometimes you come home from a bad day and no one is there. But my dog is. She’s always there, at the door, with her tail going a mile a minute and her butt wiggling, her ears back and a big grin on her face. I can sit on the floor with her and pet her, run my fingers through her thick black fur, rub her belly or scratch behind her ears. She loves it, but I do too. And it always relaxes me if I’m tense. I think that sense of touch, of a sort of “being together” is important both for me AND for her.

  18. Kaiser Soze says

    February 6, 2009 at 10:13 pm

    I must admit that I’m on the side that also feels more comfortable around animals. They don’t care about what car you drive, how fat you are, etc. But most of all, because I don’t believe there are “evil” animals. They don’t have the crookedness that comes with humans. So, basically, a lack of judgment and a lack of the drive to hurt someone else just because.

    This reminds me of a joke a friend once told me… if you wanna know who loves you more, your wife or your dog, leave them both locked in the crate… a couple of hours later when you come back, who of them is happy to see you? 🙂

  19. Sandy says

    February 7, 2009 at 2:06 pm

    Many of the comments have resonated with me – the lack of judgement and expectations animals have of us, the unconditional love they give us. And like most of the people who have commented I am mostly introverted, normally shy, usually awkward in social situations. And it works both ways

  20. Pat Moreno says

    February 7, 2009 at 6:42 pm

    It is very interesting and for sometime I have noticed that most of us in the “dog world” seem to like animals more than people. But I have no answer except possibly the dogs never reject us. They are always happy to see and be with us.

    Today I took our Halley to the vet and she does get a little excited. She was panting and I reached down and merely touched her to calm her. I could feel the calmness extending to me. Whatever it is, it is a very good feeling.

    Pat

  21. Debra says

    February 7, 2009 at 10:30 pm

    I think people are dog people or they aren

  22. Sabine says

    February 8, 2009 at 3:30 pm

    The reason I am so comfortable around animals ? I can be myself and I am not judged for being myself. 😉 It’s that simple.

    My mother died when I was very, very young. I was nine years old and found myself left behind with a working father, a key around my neck and the family dog, 50 fish, 25 greek turtles, 6 slider turtles, 2 iguanas, 2 parakeets and 1 hamster. They became my family at home and at the riding stable nearby I found happiness with the horses.
    Don’t get me wrong – I do love some people and would I be stranded on a desert island, I’d take Noah’s Ark and my favourite people with me. To quote a dear old friend of mine: “I love all animals and a few people”.

  23. David Gripenstam says

    February 8, 2009 at 7:27 pm

    I sure feel that I am one of those people who would most likely choose to spend time with other animals above humans. However, everything is great in moderation I would like to add.

    I think my reasons for prefering to be around other animals is that I feel more relaxed, not judged, no pressure etc. In a sense I wouldn’t like to say that animals are simple, but humans certainly have a nack of complicating things. As far as I’ve understood, animals tend to strive for survival, hence hunting for food, sleeping to gain energy, keep warm and so on. Humans however have created a somewhat too complicated social environment for our own good.

    Hope this makes some sense

  24. lisa says

    February 9, 2009 at 6:27 am

    Jennifer wow someone like me.(I thought i was all alone) I was born with the ability to bond with animals that i have never had with people. I have never been able to explain this to anyone how I can watch crime shows and feel sadness for a person when I see things like Michael Vick their comes a rage that I almost can’t contain my intire life people have let me down and hurt me and abandon me but animals have never done this to me all they want is love, and kindness and that makes my heart grow like the grench’s heat did. its not that i would not help a person but I owe it to animals for if it was not for them I would have never known what love felt like

  25. Dena Norton says

    February 9, 2009 at 11:11 am

    I’m another one who has always loved animals, especially dogs. I’m very social, and talk a lot. But I *am* an introvert. I need silence and alone time to recharge. But a dog or cat is good company during my alone time. I also love the smell of dogs. Much better than people, and without any stupid perfumes!

  26. Maggi Burtt says

    February 10, 2009 at 8:59 am

    I am a balanced extrovert..love people and love being “alone”. My pets, Cracker my hound mix, and my two kitties, Vandal and Tagger expect food, brushing, petting and play..nothing more and nothing less. My human friend expect more…intellectual stimulation, emotional support, opinions, advice and more. There are times I am up to that and times where hanging out with Miss C in the park watching her romp in the snow is the simplest type of joy for me.

    I worked eight years on the front lines of a veterinary clinic, managing the clients and there myriad of issues: fear, disdain, grief, excitement, finances etc. I found great challenge in keeping the client’s pleased with the services and feeling like they count (which they did, we had FANTASTIC clients for the most part). But I burned out. I left that job and became a dogwalker/petsitter. Very little client interaction but LOTS of animal interaction. I loved the challenges in behaviour and safekeeping I had with that as well. Now, eight years later (eight seems to be the magic number for me) I am shifting into dog training and behaviour. A new balance between the human and the animals. I love the animals and I love the people.

    Back on topic here..lol. I think that our dogs (more so than other pets)can provide buffered social contact for the introverts of the world. Many loners still enjoy the dogpark for the “dog chat” where they get to talk comfortably with others with no other social pressures present. A dog gets them out into the world and gives them someone to comfortably give as much affection as they can handle.

    For people who are more extroverted but “busy” with work or family, the dogs can give some unpressured together time, fresh air and a break from the other things on their minds.

    I think that “non animal” people have simply never been exposed correctly to the benefits and love that come from pets. The right dog, cat, guinea pig or even fish can melt the hearts of almost anyone. I also think this can apply to “non children” people. Not that everyone wants kids (myself included) but they too can open our eyes to a different world if it is the right kid at the right time. I happily spent a moment jumping in puddles with a two year old the other day at my local cafe..all the other adults smiled and probably thought I was nuts but it was FUN! Who’d a thunk it??!!

    Our animals teach us to be open and to see the world from a different perspective. There is a lesson for all of humanity in there. Not everyone is ready to see it.

    Peace and Laughter,
    Maggi

  27. Beth Fitzgerald says

    February 12, 2009 at 10:59 am

    Wow, what a good question. I have always been an animal lover then for many years also thought of myself as a people person. Now after ten years in the restaurant business, I am able to deal quite effectively with people but my true love other than my children, is dogs. I agree with so many of the statements. the one that says dogs don’t lie is probably what I find most important right now. I am sure that has to do with my divorce and what a liar my ex is but it also shows that the order of the reasons why we love dogs and their particular importance at any time changes with are circumstances. The truth is dogs are innocents (just like babies) and they are never corrupt until corrupted. But oh if you treat them with kindness, respect and love they respond in kind. Wouldn’t we all like to say that about our human relationships and encounters.
    After many years of being in the people business, I am becoming a dog trainer. It is sweetly rewarding unlike anything else.
    Patricia, I love your book, The other end of the leash and some day I hope to meet you.
    Happier than ever,
    Beth

  28. DeAnna says

    February 13, 2009 at 2:17 am

    Well, I feel like I need to represent for the other side here 🙂

    Of course, we are all probably less comfortable around strangers than around those familiar to us. So would I rather hang out with strange humans or with *my* dog? My dog, no question. But compare like to like and I’d much rather hang out with strange humans than strange dogs. Poorly socialized humans might be likely to say something rude, but I can be fairly certain they won’t bite my face off.

  29. Kate says

    February 13, 2009 at 10:15 am

    I’m a little different than everyone who commented here in that I was never an animal person. In the presence of any of my aunts’ and uncles’ dogs, I would ignore them or pet them briefly and quickly wash my hands, forget about letting a dog kiss me or lick me anywhere! My own family adopted a puppy when I was a teen, and after a couple of obedience classes, he pretty much got forgotten and stayed an outdoor dog all his life and never went into our house – I couldn’t understand why my aunts and uncles let their dogs inside, in fact. When my family’s dog became an adult and grew to his full size I was afraid of him and never spent time with him.

    Cut to me being an adult and finally adopting a dog of my own, initially because my partner convinced me to. I did months of research and learned a few basic rules at home (no outdoor dog for me this time around as we’re in an apartment) through television programs, books, and websites. Two weeks after we brought him home, I still hadn’t fully connected with him – I had more “What have I done?” moments than you could imagine. And this despite the fact that I did most of the walking and feeding! I don’t know when exactly it happened, but something clicked. It may have been the first time we took him to the dog park and we met other dogs and owners, and watched him play with other dogs for the first time. Who knows. But I have since become one of those “dog people” who goes to people’s homes and spends more time with the dogs than with the people. I love my dog so much that I look forward to seeing him more than my own friends sometimes. I watch dogs interact and learn so much about them by watching their body language when they interact with each other, and with their humans. I look at my dog’s face – you know the look, when your dog looks at you expectantly waiting to see what you’re going to ask him to do – and I can’t believe that I got so lucky as to have found someone who loves me as much as he does. He’s really a miracle to me. He’s helped me out of my shell. From growing up not giving animals a second thought, I am learning from him that animals are more devoted and loving than most humans. They have no agenda – they just want you and you’re always more than enough.

    I think about my old dog and how neglected he was and it breaks my heart, and I only hope that he’s on the Bridge having forgiven me for being ignorant and insensitive.

  30. Tori Self says

    February 15, 2009 at 9:28 am

    I can definitely say I feel more comfortable around animals than I do people. Specifically dogs.
    When around my close friends and family I am my normal self, but put me in a new environment and it’s like I shut off. Put me around a dog in my new environment, and I can more appropriately focus my attention and have a conversation. I think that’s part of the reason I tend to be more outgoing in a show atmosphere (we compete in dog agility) than I am in school.

  31. Kristin says

    February 19, 2009 at 7:11 pm

    Funny, I’m the mirror opposite if you, Kate. I used to get along better with animals than people, especially cats (dogs sometimes, but not as much). When my daughter was born four years ago that completely changed, I now prefer (and need) human companionship. I get weepier over homeless people than homeless animals. Maybe motherhood chemically changed something in my brain.
    And since I know people will ask – I get along better with cats because it feels more like an equal relationship. They are more self-relient, which allows me to simply enjoy their company rather than having to “mother” them. I’m currently trying to rehome a dog whose owner bailed after we agreed to temporarily take him in until her living situation changed. I’ve tried to enjoy his company but I don’t. All I feel right now is frustration/ irritation and guilt for feeling frustrated/ irritated. Perhaps if the situation were different I wouldn’t feel this way. I don’t know.
    Confessional aside, I’m glad I found this article. While I don’t share many of your opinions on people I can understand why you prefer the company of animals. I hope those of you who have been hurt by other people find solace and healing.

  32. Holly says

    June 16, 2009 at 8:19 pm

    I was always a person who LOVED animals, animals, animals!…..I owned Horses and dogs my whole like. Everyone told me I would change when I had my own baby but I never believed them…….I didn’t even want children. The VERY DAY I brought my baby home from the hospital (I was 36 yrs old), I NEVER PATTED or payed ANY attention to my dog ever again. I never liked them again, especially in the house, yuk!…..now it is hard for me to understand how anyone can be animal people!

  33. meeka says

    July 9, 2009 at 10:06 pm

    There seems to be a scientific-genetic correlation with those who are introverted, those who tend to have lower blood pressure, those who are more reserved in social interactions, are more intuitive, and those are animal/earth lovers– in contrast to those who are extroverted, generally talk before they think (or talk constantly), tend to be less empathetic, are likely more successful at owning a business, cherish human-human interation, and could do with or without animals (if anything, they tend to be strict cat lovers), and here’s the weirdest part, many of them are lactose intolerant or do not enjoy cheese/dairy (this isn’t fireproof, but has been my observation!) Although I’m sure there are those who do not follow this to a T, or not at all, it has been my experience over the years. To those who transformed from devout animal lovers their entire lives to those feining for human-human contact post pregnancy, I do vote chemical change within the body, more specifically estrogen-based, which tends to heighten blood pressure and bring about those traits from the latter category. Call me a moonbat for these categorizations if you wish, but I’m stickin’ with genetic/chemical disposition. 🙂

  34. Joseph Shepherd says

    August 23, 2009 at 11:36 pm

    I would have to say that I share the same feelings with a lot of people on this site. I’ve always had a connection with animals for as long as I can remember. The first time the question came up was with my first serious relationship with a girl. She pointed out that I liked to spend a lot of time with my cat, I was concerned about leaving my cat for even a weekend, and sometimes I would think about him when I was with other people. She said jokingly (I think) that she was jealous of my relationship with the cat, haha. Move on years later and my partner just tonight asked me why I feel more comfortable going up to the cat and giving it lots of attention as opposed to giving people more attention. I still to this day do not have an answer for her or anybody else. I can take some guess’ as to why that is thanks to this post. I am going to have her read some of your input and maybe that will help her to understand my relationship with our cat :).

  35. Carole Heath says

    November 25, 2009 at 11:36 am

    I have always liked animals from an early age, i lived in a council flat in East London, but i was always catching tadpoles and other creatures from the local lake in Victoria park and taking them home and putting them in a large fish tank in our flat. I also kept other animals like cats from time to time which were normally strays which i took in. I used to go to the animal market in Brick lane and always liked to look at the puppies and kittens which were on sale there, it has now been stopped sellings animals some years ago as it was a rather cruel practice as many of the animals were taken away from the mothers to soon and many died unfortunately very sad. I now have a dog called Jasper who is a Shih Tzu 8 years old and a lovely companion to my husband and myself. We have had two cats in the past Bilbo, and Tiger, and besides Jasper( Brandy he was a terrier cross ) and Jody a yorkshire terrier, i took him in the owner didn’t want him and then Tosca from the RSPCA also a terrier cross but sadly he was killed in a road accident, we were so upset as we only had him seven months. I agree with many of the previous comments sometimes animals can be better than some people, i think animals especially cat and dogs know when humans have a rapport with them, when people say dumb animals i don’t agree they have more intelligence than us humans think they have.

  36. Beck says

    December 28, 2009 at 10:26 pm

    I have no friends. My family is slowly being torn apart; going their own seperate ways in life. I would be all alone if it were not for my Toller, Seija. She is my guardian angel. She keeps me warm at night. She tells me no lies. She has empathy towards me as I do to her. She is my shoulder to both lean and cry on. She’s all I got. She asks very little of me and has simple needs. Unlike a so-called human friends, she does not use me to benefit herself in any way. She simply loves and wants to be loved right back. She does not care what I look like, how quiet and shy I am; she simply adores me for me. It does not matter whether or not I can hold up my end of a conversation, for silence and a deep understanding bonded between our soles is just as inseperable as a relationship built on words and a flse sense of trust. I would take my dog over any so-called human-friend I’ve had any day – because dogs are forever and people are the ones who will always turn around to bite you.

  37. fran says

    December 29, 2009 at 2:22 pm

    I’m definitely in the camp that prefers the company of non-human animals over people, but I’m wondering if anyone else ever feels that it’s really a pretty one-sided deal. Our non-human friends don’t have much choice in the matter, do they? Don’t you ever wonder if they’d choose to stay with you if they could roam freely in an environment where food was in abundance? I love my cats and dogs, but I would give anything if I could find a safe place where they could roam freely and choose to come “home” when and if they felt like it.

  38. Carole Heath says

    January 8, 2010 at 5:56 am

    This is a very interesting article with many different comments to the question why do some people feel more empathy with dogs than some humans. I have posted a comment before regarding this question, recently i watched a programme on TV about the rapport many humans have with dogs, and how clever are dogs this programme was a real eye opener, one dog in Austria could understand signs and go and pick out the toy in another room which the certain picture showed it was amazing. One expert went as far to say that dogs could have more intelligence than a two year old child and a chimp may not be as clever as a dog. The programme went on to explain how human’s and dogs had first come together earlier than was throught via wolves etc being taken into human groups, and that dog’s had evolved their barks so humans could understand them amd communicate. The expert said there isn’t another animal on earth which has ever had such a rapport with human’s and dogs aren’t called man’s best friend for no reason. I think that dog’s if they are treated kindly can be just as much company than some humans, they seem to be able to judge your mood when you feel sad for instance i know my dog always cames up to me and wants to sit with me.

  39. Joe Powell says

    February 3, 2010 at 10:25 pm

    When I was young, my parent’s dogs would never entertain me. They were Chihuahuas, and were not for little children. It had always been my goal to connect with them, but never did. Did I mention that I am highly allergic to everything? Talk about obstacles. I found that as an adult, on lots of medication, I can have cats. My first cat was the only person in my life for a long time, as I was not too close with my family. I have never felt accepted by the two-leggers, but animals generally liked me. I was much more devestated by the passing of my first, beloved cat than any other loss I have ever felt. My worst fear is of losing another pet. I have also found another love in my life, when I discovered that I CAN have a Bichon-Frise. The only dog I can tolerate in my home, she is completely hypo-allergenic. She has allergies, which I have to treat. She is probably allergic to people.
    Of course, I love my wife and my son, too! My wife thinks that I am obsessive about animals, and it’s not normal. I am glad there are so many other people who feel the way I do.

  40. Elwyn Richards says

    May 14, 2011 at 4:04 pm

    I am a man aged 61 and I live in Britain. Ever since I was a child I have always preferred animals to people and I genuinely and truly love every animal on the planet. I cannot and WILL NOT intentionally hurt or kill ANYTHING no matter how small it might be. What right has anyone to end the life of any creature just because you can. I firmly believe that every creature has the right to exist and live out the full span of its natural life. I hate myself when I , quite unintentionally , step on an ant or a snail or any other poor creature and kill it. It really bothers me and I get really angry with myself. I often pick up snails,spiders ,worms and anything else I find in the road and put them out of harm’s way. Today, MAY 17th would have been my little dog’s 18th birthday, but sadly she had to be put to sleep on June 25th last year. I can’t begin to say how much I still miss her,she meant the world to me. I have had many pets over the years and loved them all ,and still do . My one hope is that when I die I am reunited with them all again, that would truly be heaven for me. Just like the contributor above me , I am married but my wife doesn’t feel the same way towards animals as me. Yes, I can most definitely assure you that you are not alone in your love of animals ,even though women, more than men, seem to have the more compassionate nature when it comes to animals.

  41. Carla says

    April 5, 2012 at 6:21 pm

    I have always preferred the company of animals to people… even as a child. Animals don’t judge you, don’t lie to you, don’t cheat on you, and their love is unconditional. They are better than people in SO many ways… Let’s look at the whole human race, all 7 billion of us: How we treat each other, how we kill, rape, assault, rob, insult, judge and hurt each other. Now let’s throw other species into the equation (plants AND animals): We do noithing but exploit, pollute and destroy everything we touch… not to mention cause mass extinctions of countless animals and plants! I find it amusing that many people are insulted by the phylogenetic species concept that humans separated from apes between 6 to 7 million years ago… Well as far as I’m concerned comparing humans and apes is an insult to primates!

  42. Tanuja says

    April 11, 2012 at 1:11 am

    I have always been more comfortable with animals than human beings. They are genuine, loyal and non-judgemental and will give you more love than your heart can hold – no strings attached. They are the best friends anybody could ever have. Animals will stick by your side whether you are rich or poor, happy or angry, sick or in good health, adored or scorned by society, while most humans stay by your side DEPENDING on some/all of the above. Just like Elwyn Richards who has commented before me, my vision of heaven is a place where I will be re-united with all the animals that I have loved and lost over the years. That would make me most happy!

  43. thedesert says

    May 1, 2012 at 11:41 pm

    Loving dogs more than people is unhealthy. They are dogs with their own lives and we use them for a replacement for being socially retarded.

    grow up

  44. Casilu says

    June 8, 2012 at 12:10 pm

    In the past 31 years, I don’t think I have ever been without a pet. I have had dogs, cats, goats, ducks and geese and horses and the best times of my life have been when I was around these animals. I feel so much more comfortable around my dogs than I do around people. I am a Highly Sensitive Person and there are so many times I could relate about anumals who have touched my heart. I would prefer to live in a town where I could walk to the store or church, wherever I had to go, instead of driving a car. Over 20 years ago, I was driving down a gravel road and I could not help but hit a squirrel. I remember stopping the car and crying, that squirrel had no chance against that heavy vehicle. 8 years ago, we were in an Indiana town for a funeral and were stopped at a red light. I looked out the window and saw an injured robin moving itself along the curb on the street side with it’s wings, because of it’s injury. It was just trying to survive. I still get tears in my eyes when I think about that sight. My husband does not understand why I remember these things, nor why I would rather spend a day at home messing with my 2 dogs instead of getting out of the house. I get out of the house, I walk the dogs. To me that seems perfectly normal. It pressures me to be around people in social situations. There is no pressure like that with my dogs. Every time I come through the door they greet me like I was gone forever. I don’t even get greetings like that from my husband of 30 years. Give me the companionship of an animal any day!

  45. fred says

    June 24, 2012 at 7:12 am

    because are animals are always there for you. people are not

  46. Cheryl says

    June 26, 2012 at 12:41 am

    Animals either like you or not, and they’re real up front about letting you know this. People hide behind their true nature. I find that I have a real connection to animals, but I can’t connect with people. I was abused as a child, and was forced to hide it in the open, those that knew swept it under the carpet and I was treated as a thing not a child that needed help. They were guilty, they knew it and couldn’t look me in the face, and rather than stop it. Looked the other way. So maybe in part I can’t trust my own species, you don’t see other animals throwing young under a bus.

    My mother always came across as feeling that I was a burdon and yet couldn’t love my siblings enough. People are never there for you Fred.

    I learned a very long time ago, Never trust a human!

  47. gfhfg says

    July 6, 2012 at 2:56 pm

    I’m not comfortable near animals or people. I like animals though, they are nice. Most of them don’t like to get near me but that’s because I think they sense me not wanting to be near them either. Well it’s the same with people. I’m not a people person either. Humans and animals can most certainly detect that in a person, no matter how hard you hide it.

  48. jen79 says

    August 7, 2012 at 6:34 am

    Very good question. I am more comfortable with animals, and I never questioned it until I found out, others dont have to force themselves to find human babies cute like I do. I thought it might be because animals are innocent. But watch the documentary on youtube called wolf pack. Its a docu about the pack in the yellow stone park. There you will see that the interaction between wolfes is very similar to human behaviour, betrayal, complotts, hidden agendas, secret meetings to turn down the leader and so on. I was shocked. There I understood, it must be something different. I think it is because we take on the role of the unconditional loving parent, and they take on the role of unconditional and ever grateful children. But even if they are not loving and grateful, we still love them, right? And we would still do our best so they are happy. I think it is something more than the eye can see and more than we can explain with sociological or psychological means. Its some sort of magic love happening between us and them .

  49. John Roberts says

    September 28, 2012 at 9:50 pm

    Animals have a different life. They are not stupid they have society. They rely on instinct. Humans are cruel and base conclusions on what they want to be right. They will not accept the opposite. An animal wil listen maybe even judge they might even understand. But the only reason I do not like people is that they don’t understand
    D or even try and they pry more than any other animal

  50. angie says

    October 2, 2012 at 2:12 pm

    I have been a animal lover since I can remember. I came from a broken family, my dad left when I was 2 years old and my mom worked all the time to support us kids. I never got alot of affection as a child, I felt very alone even though I had brothers and sisters. UNTIL animals came into my life. I loved and cared for any animal , birds,fish, dogs,cats you name it . I was always taking in stray animals and my mom would get so upset with me, but I couldn’t blame her, she had a hard enough time feeding us kids. But she always let me have a pet anyway! THANK GOD! Animals kept me sane, they were my guardian angels and still are to this day. They were there when I felt abandoned by the people who were to love and care for me. I never heard the words I love you, no hugs or kisses. So guess where I got my affection from? Thats right ,the only place that I felt accepted, my pets! People were heartless in my eyes, even at a very young age. I often wished I would have been raised by a pack of wolves then humans. I never felt like I fit in with people, I was a outcast. At the age 6 I knew that I wanted to be a veterinarian! I remember the day I told my mom I was so excited! Hey mom I know what I want to be when I grow up ! Her words cruched me! She said, your to stupid. I walked away with a very low sense of worth. Back to my animals for comfort. That made me dislike people even more. I had no desire to have children but got pregnant at a young age. I have a beautiful daughter and love her dearly,but my love for animals never went away. I also have told people that if they put a baby and a puppy on the floor I would go to the puppy. Some people think somethings wrong with me liking animals over humans . I think people that dont like animals have the problem. Anyone that hurts animals are the ones that needs help, they scare me! I was born to love animals there is nothing wrong with that! I now have a small parrot rescue and I am proud of what I do. So let me be me and you can be you! I will not change who I am and my love for animals for anyone! GOD BLESS ALL YOU ANIMAL LOVER!

  51. Trisha says

    October 3, 2012 at 5:50 am

    Thanks for writing in, Angie, I’m so glad you have animals and a wonderful daughter in your life.

  52. Anne says

    December 11, 2012 at 5:44 am

    I’ve been an animal lovers since I can remember…I am now 33 & it is a good few years now that I feel more confortable with animals (any kind) than humans.
    I feel at ease, relax, I am genuinely happy when with them. I tend to feel depressed around humans (dont know why).
    I have 2 cats & I am helping each weekend at the stables, where we have cats, dogs, horses (obviously 🙂 )

    All without exception are just so happy to see me when I arrive…the c ats come directly to my car (well more in my car, maybe checking for a treat), the dogs just run at me & I can see the smile ontheir faces, & the same with the horses…I just call them & they come to me, put their head on my chest, push me around a bit (gently of course)…
    I talk to them probably even more than I would talk to humans.

    This is priceless to me, & I always have a tear when it’s time to go.

    You should see the boots of my car…I found a starving dog one day, & I had nothing to give her…since I have dog & cat food, carrots, apple, just in case

    I cant kill any living beings…I would put a spider or mouse out for example; I am the same with plants….always take in plant people dont want because dying or something, I always try to save them; I dont always manage …& I always have a tear if not.

    Sometimes (not for long though) I wonder if something is wrong with me..I really dont spend much time with humans (less & less to be honest) & feel maybe I should.

    Maybe is it because animals never hurt me, I dont know.

  53. Dog Lover says

    December 31, 2012 at 7:38 pm

    Someone above wrote something about being socially retarded, or something like that, They are wrong. To put it simply, YES, I prefer the company of my animals to humans. I like my animals better than people. I am more comfortable with them, they are true and genuine, humans are not. Its that simple….they have no alterior motive, they are loyal, and the simple things in life (affection, love, attention) mean the most to them…i have yet to meet a human that is as pure as my loving animals….

  54. Felinefriend2013 says

    January 29, 2013 at 10:38 am

    In the words of Nietzsche “Man is the cruelest animal.”
    And…if you observe and read everyday of the heinous acts that we, as humans impart to each other–you will agree with this statement. It’s sad–but true. So much hate in the world–amongst each other. It’s no wonder why I have always had a connection and love for animals. (And interestingly enough–I am a bit introverted as well). We have so much to learn from animals. Their ability to provide companionship – without expecting much in return. With humans, there is always some agenda (hidden).

  55. jess says

    January 31, 2013 at 10:11 pm

    i just want to be happy and care-free all the time. i can’t feel that way around people. people always have negative things to say it seems. if you don’t have expensive clothes and a manicure all the time then you are sometimes viewed as gross and unattractive. i shouldn’t have to worry about what other girls think about me, when they’re the ones smothering their entire face in makeup.

    when i am with my baby pug there is not a care in the world. i tell her everything and we often go on woodland adventures. people think i’m strange for how much i love my dog. i find it far easier to talk to her than anyone i consider my friend or family. i was actually wondering what the psychology behind this was when i found my way onto this site. am i crazy?

  56. Marilyn says

    February 5, 2013 at 2:23 pm

    I believe as a counselor that if there is not a good balance between human and animal companionship there could be a problem. Trust might be a problem for those who prefer animals over their own parents or children. It may point to OCD.or some other mental health disorder. I was surprised to hear from one of my clients that he would not be able to visit his ailing mother because he didn’t want to leave his pets. This is extreme to put pets before people. I am an animal lover but people come first to me and always will. Yes, people disappoint but that is why we have our big boy pants.

  57. Judy says

    March 27, 2013 at 9:37 pm

    I have always loved animals and they have always seemed to love me. My mother told me once that when I was a tiny baby, I would be completely entertained by a pup lying near and I was content as long as he was there. She said I was the only one of her 7 children who had this love. I remember when I was about 3 and had a beagle I loved more than anything. I had all kinds of animals growing up, most always a dog and lots of rabbits, chickens, ducks, hogs and several misc. wild things since we lived in the rural south. It was usually my chore to feed the animals because I never forgot to feed and water them even when the snow was nearly up to my hips. I remember carrying water to them and chipping the ice out of their water bowls daily. My mother said she never had to ask me if I fed my animals because I was always concerned with their well being. I am still like that to this day. I have had to endure lots of grief in my time because I loved my animals so much, but was somewhat loathe to be around people. It seemed to get worse as I got older and now I am headed towards being the eccentric old lady with all those dogs! Ha! I have tried to analyze why I am so attached to them and I think one reason is because they offer unconditional love, which I am sorry to say I have only seen one person–my father, who had that gift. I did have a son and loved him so much and still do, but my dogs are my companions and they are my joy in life. They offer affection, companionship, protection and entertainment. I miss them when I am gone and rush home to them when I finished out in the world. I do not go many places that I cannot take them with me. I feel that after a couple of failed marriages, I am dealing with rejection and I know my dogs will never reject me. It seems I never feel good enough–you know, not thin enough, not smart enough, not pretty enough, not intelligent enough–not educated enough. My dogs do not care if I am fat, or if my hair ugly or if I have garlic breath–they love me anyway and they show it continuously. I seem to have a way with animals and my family jokingly calls me the animal whisperer because I have never met an animal who did not like me. I must admit sometimes it even amazes me. I have been able to preserve the life of baby animals which normally did not have a chance to live–but miraculously did. Once I stepped out of a car into a sea of 28 full grown pit bull terriers who were barking at my arrival to deliver my ailing computer to the technician. It didn’t occur to me that it was odd until the technician stated to me she had never seen anyone do that before. I had no idea what she was referring to until she pointed to all those little pit bull faces. I told her that animals just like me and she said she believed it because normally those dogs would not let people out of the car. They were just so cute though. I had absolutely no fear of them at all. I even made friends with an African Gray Parrot in a pet store once, which was not for sale because it would bite. There were signs all over the case cautioning one not to put hands near him. I did anyway and he loved me and made no attempt to bite–but everyone else in the store could not go near. I opened the cage and he stepped onto my hand making sweet noises–the owner was amazed because he could not touch this bird. Horses always like me also–I have been able to ride horses who would not allow anyone else to ride. I do not question it, I just go with it. My point is I love them all so much and I feel concern for their well being. I feel emotional when I see them mistreated and it makes me angry. I know I am different and I am just now starting to be comfortable with this because I think I have a gift. I am not going to stress over my affection for non-human animals–I am just going to enjoy it. Also, I love babies and kids just fine!

  58. Kikovica says

    May 9, 2013 at 6:08 pm

    I love both humans and animals. Just as I don’t like every dog or cat I see, I don’t like every human being I encounter…it’s a matter of resonance, sympathy…I’d like to have kids one day, although I don’t find babies adorable as puppies or kittens, just plain boring. It’s hard to say why some people like animals more than humans (or vice versa). Maybe there’s no need to find reasons, we should all just enjoy what (or whom) we like most and who opens our heart to greater and extent and thus brings us more true joy and happiness. I have two cats and two dogs and always travel with the dogs, and sometimes-if circumstances allow-with the cats also, but I can’t imagine not visiting my ailing mother for a day or two because I couldn’t leave my pets. I miss them very much when I’m at work and can’t wait to come home to them…my perfect day is hiking with the dogs. But still, I love some people as well and people in general. And plants. All is good when you love, it doesn’t matter whom…

  59. Nicole says

    June 24, 2013 at 9:02 pm

    I do prefer animals over people. I am an extrovert, but still people disappoint me. In your life every person will disappoint you or hurt you at one time or another. My dogs never do. I know they love me unconditionally. People don’t love unconditionally. I am married and have kids that I love dearly. My dogs are loyal, do not judge me, and they make me feel special every time I come home. They live to be with me. I have 3 dogs and 5 cats. I am very social and have a few true friends that I trust. My husband and I have a good marriage going on 24 years. I have always been an animal person. I am just attracted to them. I can’t remember a time I did not have an animal in my life. I feel life would be empty without them.

  60. sammie says

    August 5, 2013 at 10:53 am

    I am 52 and I have always preferred animals over people. I like people who help animals and are good to animals. the rest I have no use for. I have learned over the years that I just hate people! don’t like being around them don’t trust them. and like being alone but always with animals. so really I am never alone. I would love to have a farm with hundreds of animals and no one else around for 50 miles! only leave to get food for the animals and myself. I would then be a happy camper!

  61. jake says

    September 13, 2013 at 1:54 pm

    I knew a woman who loved animals more than people. She would go to local animal shelters and adopt cats and dogs. She would not get the average animal, she had to get the cat with 3 legs or the blind dog. She loved animals so much that she was surprised when her child ended up in foster care for neglect. Every time I hear of people loving animals more than people I think of this woman and others like her with delusional thinking.

  62. Underdog says

    September 28, 2013 at 7:32 am

    I am more for the underdog as I call it. People have beat me raped me dumped me off with others I was not my mothers priority I was treated as a option. So in my life I feel like one of the many animals that has gone through the same thing I can relate to their fear of humans. Because I fear some humans myself. well the one’s that are so called normal. I love the people that can not help themselves or the ones born with DS or other mental disabilities again I can relate to them some family’s throw them away aging parents are treated the same way I am the one that speaks up for them when they hurt or are in need I am the one that holds their hand when they take their last breath. I am the one that deals with the biting kicking scratching cussing out hitting spitting when they can’t not use words to let you know whats going on inside of their bodies I take the time to know them to understand them in a way no one else is willing to or wanting to WHY??? because I am a underdog.. Sometimes no words speak louder than words themselves Give me my dogs cats birds all wildlife and all my little people and I will show you a woman with a full heart and a happy life. I don’t need society Idea of NORMAL.

  63. Anonymous says

    October 15, 2013 at 9:50 am

    Animals tend to have fewer and less complicated social rules. Interacting with animals tends to involve less confusion, since we automatically put ourselves in control of the situation; the animal has no choice or power over the situation. Also, one can start interacting with animals at any age; if one misses certain develomental milestones in forming human relationships, it’s basically impossible to learn later on what was missed before. There is no “social/relationships for adults” courses out there, unless you have Asperger syndrome. Maybe animals are just more forgiving.

  64. Erika says

    October 21, 2013 at 1:11 pm

    Definitely prefer animals, lifelong condition, as an iconoclast, don’t care if it disturbs most people or not.
    Being an introvert in an extrovert society means you get marginalized.so why should i care what our shallow culture thinks?
    My human family did not teach me what love was,Dogs and Rabbits taught me what love was.
    I believe that animals are closer to God than humans are and that humans somehow got twisted and cut ff.

    I do not see loving nature and animals more than humans as an “evolutionary misfire” , but an act of a conscious universe to try to save a living planet by operating through some humans. Civilized Humans are destroying the planet and killing off other species at an alarming rate. Caring more for other species and nature more than your own largely unconscious species is an act of courage that is probably sparked deep inside by the source of life..you are more in alignment with God/Source in caring for an animal or nature than a twisted unnatural species whose civilization creates an artificial environment that parallels a zoo.
    What other species is so stupid that it locks itself in a cubicle for 8 hours a day and squanders its life away on things that are trivial and call it work?

  65. Liz says

    November 21, 2013 at 2:19 pm

    I think we’re more comfortable around animals often because they’re upfront, love you for who you are, and , to me most pertinently, they don’t ‘act’. They’re upfront, and themselves.

  66. Diane says

    April 11, 2014 at 9:04 am

    I am more attracted to dogs than people (including babies). In fact, I find little talkative 2-year-olds annoying. I got my first dog about 4 years and 7 months ago (for the wrong reasons)! She was 3 months old and the most adorable ball of fur. My life was a mess. After her spaying appointment, she came walking out drowsy with a little drop of blood on her paw. I feel in love. This puppy needed me and I didn’t know it then, but I needed her. She keeps me grounded and I love her more than anybody. Maybe that’s not good but with prayer, I’ll find out. But for now, what a gift God.

  67. Kathleen Roskowski says

    July 16, 2014 at 7:42 pm

    Ever since I can remember, I’ve had a dog. No brothers or sisters, but I always had a dog to share my time with, and trust, and love. As I got older, I realized people, no matter if they are family, friends, or spouses, can lie, put their bad habits before you, such as drinking too much, being selfish, and not giving their love unconditionally, as you dog does. My dog stays with me when I’m sick, having a bad day, and senses things about me that no human possibly could. I have trusted my own relatives, only to find out later on in life how they misjudge you or your family. My animals to me are a stronger family than my own. I love my children and husband, but at times they let you down, but never my canines. To me, they are angels in fur coats. I had a dog that even gave his life for me. He thought I was in danger and thought a policeman was going to hurt me, or threaten me, and nipped at the cop, and was shot 3 times. He died bleeding to death, when no one would lend a hand to help me, and they would not even let me take him to get help. Now I trust people even less. My animals give me love, they don’t judge you, and are always there to welcome you home. How many humans stand by you when you really need them? How many humans love you forever? Animals don’t fight with you, argue, or cause you grief. I can’t understand people, but I do love my dogs, and love them with all my heart.

  68. Julie says

    August 7, 2014 at 9:25 am

    I have always had a very special connection to animals and nature. I think what most people commenting here are saying is that animals are pure in spirit, that’s how I feel about them. I can almost feel an animal’s nature, like an energy, and I can only describe that I feel whole and complete when animals are in my life, which is why they always have been. There are certain people who have a closeness to animals and can relate to them in such a way that I consider it as one of the gifts that they were born with – as we are all born with certain gifts. There have been people in general who have formed such incredible bonds with animals, look at Andre the seal as just one example of this – he was totally free but chose to live with the human connection that spanned about 25 years. His “owner” (he never truly owned him as he was free) was a gentleman that seemed to have such a special connection to animals , befriending wild birds and even a bat! I have never cared whether people understand my love of animals or nature, I feel it is an essence of life I was given and I embrace it. As most posts already mentioned, animals, especially dogs teach us many things, and the greatest of these is unconditional love. There is nothing higher to behold on this planet than love.

  69. Chelsea says

    August 21, 2014 at 5:27 am

    I would rather be around animal’s then people, animals attract me like ants on sugar, my friend tells me it’s the animal instinct in me I never understood that, it may be horrible to say and sound worse but if it came down to it I would choose my pet or any animal over a person, I’ve been like that since I was a child, I have no idea if it was because how uneasy raised, abandoned, over and over as a child and even now as an adult, I still have trouble interacting with people, animals love u for u, are never judgmental, they feel what u feel, and they never leave your side, they are your true family ….

  70. Carole Heath says

    August 25, 2014 at 7:47 am

    I agree with many of the comments on this site animals are indeed better than some people. I have a dog a Shih Tzu called Jasper he is my friend and companion I feel empathy towards him and I am sure he does towards me. I have found in life that some people not all seem to use others for their own ends and when you say no they get annoyed. People who say if you loose your pet oh it is only a cat or dog don’t know what they are talking about. A bond with an animal can be very deep I know myself I lost two dogs and two cats two due to illness and two to road accidents. I was so upset both times it took me quite awhile to get over the loss. Jasper healed the hurt of their loss and I have had him for 13 years now.

  71. Marc says

    October 29, 2014 at 4:08 am

    Hello

    I do love animals. But I am horrified that people can say they love animals more than human beings. Or that animals are better than some people. This is so senseless. If you compare the best dog in the world who just rescued an infant baby from a horrible death, to a serial killer and rapist, you can reach such a conclusion but comparison is not reason. It’s impossible to compare two completely different species just because we live in the same world. How about :”some mosquitoes are better than some people?” or “some parrots are better than some worms” ? This is an illogical statement which is just the result of projections, and does not mean nor lead to anything.

    I am just out of a relationship with a young woman who meant the world to me – I was ready and offered to marry her – but the relationship collapsed partly because of her dog. Basically, her dog would be #1 even though she claims “it’s just a dog, not a human being”. But then the one who receives attention and care from her was her dog. She just forgot that human relationships also need some investment, and she did not invest in our relationship as much as she invested with her dog.

    There are some false premises in the comments above. Science has proven very well that animals in general can be cruel and kill others out of cruelty. Genocides have been described among chimpanzees in Africa. Wolves kill sheep not for food, but because killing is fun. Even a cat playing with a mouse for hours is cruel. Why ? Because he is inflicting useless pain on another creature. The reason behind it. Animals simply have no moral code.

    Dogs are somehow smart, but way less than a human being. They cannot read. They cannot create hypothesis and deduction. They can hardly control their emotions. Basically they eat, sleep, hug they owner and bark and play and reproduce. They are cute (not all of them). They are furry creatures, like the teddy bear you owned as a child. But a teddy bear is a projection, not a real thing. It’s not even a bear.

    Some commenters wrote about the unconditional love of dogs. The problem is that this is not love. Love is not about worshipping you and making you feel like you are special everyday. Love is something else. When there are difficulties, to be able to go through them, to help the other person when they are in despair, etc. Dogs have evolved to be cute and display emotions in a way which will be rewarded with food. Observe how dogs work for a sheperd : they come to get a quick pat on the head because they worked well, and they eat only when the sheperd wants. They do their job, they get lots of exercize, and in return they get the affection of their owner. All this gives them a place in this world. Dog are made to work and exercize.

    Let me quote Cesar Millan, the Dog Whisperer :
    On Owners Who Love Too Much
    Simply loving your dog doesn’t make you a good dog owner, and showering your pet with nonstop affection is a common mistake. Many of my clients see their dogs as their children or their soul mates. This is unhealthy. Dogs need three things: exercise, discipline, and affection, in that order. In the dog world, there’s no affection. The pack leader doesn’t lead a hunt, then turn around and say, “Hey! Great job! Let’s go to Petco!” Make your dog work for your affection. Before you pet him, make him come to you or sit for you. Don’t go over and pet him out of the blue. That’s a submissive behavior coming from someone who’s supposed to be dominant, and it can be confusing.

    So when Cesar Millan says “in the dog world there is no affection” I tend to believe him.

    In fact, if you cannot have a healthy relationship with people is often because you have an unhealthy relationship with dogs. I believe mostly women have this trait, because let’s face it : it is easier to love a dog than to love a human. Dogs do not have their own volition, they will just follow whatever the owner wants because they have evolved to do so.

    You may want to read the following blog post wich tells a lot about attachement to animals http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/fulfillment-any-age/201202/how-emotionally-attached-are-you-your-pet

    Ultimately, I regret that this woman I love chose to prefer her dog over a man who truly loved her, but a part of me is thanking God that she left : how could I be happy with her anyway ?

    I will get a dog pretty soon, and I will be not the owner but the master, the pack leader, and my dog will be happy. But he will not sleep in my bed, lick my face or do whatever he wants. He will do what I command. And that’s the best way to love your dog.

    Do not ask how your dog can love you : ask how you can love your dog.

  72. Trisha says

    October 29, 2014 at 8:50 am

    To Marc, re: “So when Cesar Millan says “in the dog world there is no affection” I tend to believe him.” I am close to speechless as to how to answer this, except to say that arguing “there is no such thing as affection” in the world of a dog belies all of biology (see research on oxytocin and social bonding, see Panskepp and Berns on core emotions in non human animals) and centuries of our experiences with dogs. What a sad, mechanistic, and egocentric view of the world, as if humans have exclusive rights to feelings of love and affection.

  73. You don't know me says

    November 9, 2014 at 6:04 am

    I don’t know why, but i like animals more than people.

    Predators more than any others.

    I’m not shy in anyway. I’ve delt with a crappy life. Giving me a very dark look on any human.

    Weird? Yes

    If planet of apes happened, i’d go with the apes all the way.

  74. sudeep says

    November 9, 2014 at 9:21 am

    the thing is that since i was a child i had some kind of a special spot in my heart touched by the animals alone more than my own mother. I feel happy when they are happy i feel sad when they are sad . But i can say that they give me the one thing i crave for Love not a little but unlimited…..

  75. Jessica Phillipa Morrison says

    November 21, 2014 at 3:48 pm

    It is so good to see how many people are animal lovers on this site. Many of the comments I can relate to. I have known many people in my live I am 67 years old now and some have been good to be with and others have not. Some have tried to take me for granted only contacting me when they want something. I don’t entertain these type of people anymore I want genuine friends. But I have had animals dogs mostly who quite honestly I prefer than some humans. They sometime have more empathy than some humans. I don’t really care if some people say it is wrong to like animals in some cases more than humans if I have more of a rapport with dogs so be it.

  76. Tom Swinburn says

    December 28, 2014 at 1:35 pm

    Never in my 66 years have I had a dog “use” me. Never have I have I had a human not. Though I know there have to be some, somewhere, I’ve never had a dog I couldn’t win over with patience & love. I understand that most aggressive dogs are scared or territorial. And your state of mind can have a tremendous effect on them. If you’re neither scared nor threatening most dogs WANT to be your buddy. Not many people are trustworthy. Talk is cheap, but actions speak much louder than words. NEVER do I trust a human who says “trust me”. Never do I mistrust a dog whom I’ve come to know well.

  77. bob says

    January 18, 2015 at 3:11 pm

    Why this need to make a distinction?
    Does one have to prefer animals to humans or visa versa?
    Surely we are sophisticated enough to be able to love,care for, feel empathy for animals
    AND humans in appropriate amounts,even if we do get it “wrong” sometimes?

  78. Lisa Dawn says

    January 30, 2015 at 7:57 am

    I actually love animals more then humans. I turned Vegan a little over a year ago and it has opened my eyes to all the suffering these poor innocent beings go through at the hands of so called humans. Once you make the connection you can not go back to the way you used to think. Animals have done nothing to us and they are being treated in the most inhuman way possible. It’s such an injustice and most people don’t see it. It’s tough living in a world that people used animals in such ways. makes you ashamed to be “Human”

  79. sj says

    February 12, 2015 at 9:35 pm

    So refreshing to read that I am not alone in my natural enjoyment of the company of animals. Some people come on here and condemn this point of view – which is so strange to read in contrast to the people who have stories of joy and true heartfelt love for their animals.
    I also would say dogs especially. For them loyalty is never a question. It is automatic and never in degrees… it is always 100%. I don’t know any humans that measure up to that.
    It is not a sickness – it is a discovery that there are others on this earth that do not put money or appearance before real friendship.
    One person did not understand why anyone would make comparisons… except that most decisions are made on a comparative basis. There are some truly horrible humans – that can’t hide behind instinct for their actions. Those humans are using choice.
    “Humans come first” … no – because that would include the terrorists we see in the news – I won’t put them ahead of a dog. A good human is a great and wonderful thing – but so is a good dog. I can love them both.

  80. Gina says

    April 16, 2015 at 11:36 am

    I bond with dogs, cats, horses…even a gecko and fish. I volunteer at a cat adoption rescue. Most of my furry kids are strays. I take care of feral kitties in need of food when they come around in the winter, thin and desperate. I’ve doctored a few strays (feral or lost/dumped) along the way. People with “pets” sometimes get irritated because their “pet” is more affectionate to me than to themselves. I call them furry kids and we are not owners but furry kid parents. With rare exceptions, I can put tense or frightened animals at ease very quickly. My mom says I must have animal pheromones because of my affinity. I love my daughter immensely and she will always come first in my heart. But she knows that my furry kids are a very close second, that I have adopted them (officially or otherwise) and have made a lifelong commitment to their care. They don’t always make life easier but life wouldn’t be worth living without them.

    I’ve openly stated that I prefer animals to people. Some people are offended by that. I don’t much care because I’ve stated the truth. I feel happy and relaxed with animals. I am tense around most people. And though I love my family and a few friends, I can quite happily avoid contact with them for weeks or months – excluding my daughter, that is. I would make a phenomenal hermit as long as I had a dog and cat and got a call from my daughter from tine to time. I can’t imagine a better way to live.

    Thank you, everyone, for posting your feelings and letting me know I’m not alone in my companion preference.

  81. michele.silva says

    April 23, 2015 at 1:03 pm

    I have 5 small girls dogs and 5 bigger girls. Some one called the SPCA animal shelter and reported us as it seems you are only allowed to have 4 small dogs. There was a big push last summer related to the fresno SPCa. I love dogs and bought them. So the same people that want to split my doggy family up are the same ones that took my 180.00 per the majority of dogs I recieved a beautiful little chiwawa for free at a drawing and I love her. Her name is sweat pea. I am praying and believing that there is some justice. Rachel did send a lot of money to the pound and that was generous but at what cost. I am going to try to keep all of my dogs as they are part of my family. I think rachel ray meant for all the money to go to the good of the animals and that means putting with good owners. I know that most of the employees and volunteers enjoy helping. I asked to speak to the administrator of the SPCA and was asked (why,& what for?) by the young lady that answered the phone. I explained that I needed to speak with him. And the women I spoke to did not want to pass the phone unless I told her why. I work full time as an RN and I know what I am doing. They need to have a tracking system so when an adoption takes place the owner needs to say I have this many dogs, otherwilse the general public gets to busy working taking care of the children and going to work. Fresno SPCA needs to invest in a computer tracking program.

  82. Carol says

    June 5, 2015 at 1:51 am

    I agree with Bob but don’t think we “animal lovers” get it “wrong” (on January 18, 2015 at 3:11 pm). Bob says:
    “Why this need to make a distinction?
    Does one have to prefer animals to humans or visa versa?
    Surely we are sophisticated enough to be able to love, care for, feel empathy for animals
    AND humans in appropriate amounts, even if we do get it “wrong” sometimes?”

    If one believe in the Christian Bible, the first book, Genesis, talks about Adam and Eve being sinners. I have a cynical approach to thinking about this subject matter. I believe man is basically evil. Man is very cruel to innocent animals who, even though they don’t speak a formal language, they speak in other ways by actions, expressions, sounds, etc. Man kills animals every day for various reasons, some to eat, some for pleasure, some for cruelty, etc. I have no doubt as to why I prefer to care for, love and nurture animals — because there are so many others in the world who are selfish, self-centered, egotistical and cruel to an innocent creature they can get away with by harming when no one else is there to protect them.

  83. Ankara says

    June 9, 2015 at 6:19 am

    I am very much one of those people who feel unconditional love for all non-human animals but not necessarily for humans. I do adore babies but I think that’s because they’re so much like animals at that stage. In fact, as soon as kids learn to talk, I loose interest. At that point, they’re just small versions of human adults. I don’t think it’s about not being judged or anything having to do with me, what the animal expects or doesn’t expect of me, or the fact that that the animal doesn’t judge me. I’ve felt this way since I’ve been alive, even before I understood what judgment is and before anyone had any expectations of me. My unconditional love and compassion for non-human animals is not about me. It’s about the animals, and it’s deep and non-negotiable. Perhaps most children are this way, but some of us did not allow the adult human world shame us into changing who we are and how we feel. I’ve always ferociously defended this way of being. I can’t explain why, but it’s just who I am.

  84. Margueritte says

    June 10, 2015 at 8:08 pm

    When I was a child, I had the same affinity for animals as the people responding to this forum. I felt this affinity for the same reasons as well. I turned to animals because I felt most people did not understand nor accept me. I felt that animals did. …..
    My mind and feelings changed about animals when I found that they are like human beings in many ways.
    Not being able to read all of their cues doesn’t mean that they are unconditional in acceptance. They have their positive and negative nuances, almost the same as humans……… I now have 4 children, two adults and 2 approaching adulthood. All have an affinity for animals. The oldest does not want children of her own but loves most animals, especially the babies and including the human kind. I still like like animals. I am just no longer in love with them. That is all.

  85. Joseph says

    June 30, 2015 at 7:33 am

    Im not sure why but for me it’s because animals are pure and not fake
    They do not judge and apreciate our affection and love us not like people

    When i was little I was teased a lot for being different
    I would come home to my dog that loved me for real and and was always happy to see me
    I never had many friends i always was a outsider amongs my peers
    I had bird i got when I was 11 my uncle gave him to me because i was depressed since i had a few pets die on me and thought all pets die under my care but my birdy “BOB” didnt die he was my best friend he was alwahs there for me and would fly to me when he saw me and call me when he heard my voice ,
    He was there when I was sad ,depressed and alone i had this friendship and affection i could not find with people , i think all shy people find that because you can talk to your animals and they dont talk back or judge you and make fun of you and mock you like people do

    I am socially awkward and have a strong social anxiety but i feel calm with animals
    I know im weird but thats me

  86. Ashlee says

    July 16, 2015 at 7:33 am

    Honestly. When I think of humans and all of our wrong reasons for living . All of our worries. All of our betrayals. Everything that the western world lives for. I’m so disappointed. I don’t like people but I won’t be mean to them. I know that there is good in others but we are just so selfish. I am 21 and have already done quite some traveling. Meeting so many different people and many were truly great but I don’t feel a connection to them. I’m pregnant right now. I am happy but still sad about it. I’m hoping to raise my child in the right direction. A selfless direction filled with love and a heart to give and a mind of wisdom. To me I absolutely adore animals so much more that I day dream about secluding myself from communication with others and bringing along a dog or two with me. I’m not a spiritualist. It’s just where my heart is and has always been since a baby. I just CAN NOT stand being around people.

  87. Jason says

    July 28, 2015 at 6:55 am

    I have always had a connection to animals. Ever since I was a child. I can connect with just about every single animal… Even the ones labeled “dangerous”. It’s as if we are on the same wave length.
    I get along with people very well. It’s just that people lie, let you down and animals don’t. Call me what you will, but animals will always have my heart

  88. linda says

    August 1, 2015 at 8:20 pm

    Add me to the ones that much prefer animals (especially dog) over humans. I have been this way since I was a kid. When we would go to someones house that I didnt know, instead of asking if they had kids to play with, I asked if they had a dog that I could play with. My favorite aunts and uncles have been the ones that did not have kids BUT did have dogs! I make no excuses or apologies for it. I read all the responses and find them all interesting, and also only one that I thought was rather rude…the one that said something about people being socially retarded because they liked animals over people. Perhaps that is the very reason that we DO love animals more. Humans can be rude and judgmental. P.S. I have to go,,,I have a lovely dog waiting to go on a walk with me!

  89. Dennis says

    September 23, 2015 at 4:53 pm

    Dogs never leave you, you can invest 100% love.

    Lots of people who are really into dogs have at one point experienced neglect or a severe let down.

  90. Bob says

    October 2, 2015 at 4:34 am

    You are obviously more knowledgeable than me on this subject, however, why are some people so convinced that human being’s are no more than a very intelligent species of animal. And also, if , we are just an intelligent species of animal, that evolved from an ape, why are there still apes ? However, please, I could just go and on about the evolution topic. I believe that one of the reasons that people are so attached (note I didn’t say love) animals and can we use a dog as an example, is because it satisfies the “human-beings” need to govern. Cat’s, I know, are a different species and can just love the affection from humans and to be fed.

  91. Ben says

    October 4, 2015 at 6:03 pm

    I am one of those people that are at ease around dogs and other animals because I think that they are more honest with their feelings. It may be just me but that is what I believe.

  92. Mara Chapmon says

    October 12, 2015 at 4:47 am

    Why do I refer animals over people. I have often asked this question from time to time. Do t get me wrong…. I do love my family and extended family dearly. That being said, I am usually the one to “volunteer” to stay home and care for the cows, sheep and all the families various bets and fur babies while everyone is gone. All I ask is keep me posted on Facebook. I am good. Yet at times I feel guilty that I don’t feel bad about not being with the family. I do live them dearly, however, I don’t live all the drama that comes along with being there in person.

    I don’t do small talk well at all. I don’t care for gossip, either. Plus, being an introvert, and a people watcher over the years. I feel as if I have picked up an added skill of reading people very well. When I am with groups my own age, many who are either parents or grandparents and you try to join the conversation …. All you get are eyes rolling and or ,I see the judging looks. Since I didn’t have children I cannot have a comment in the conversations with those who do, they roll their eyes as if we are no longer observant or intelligent. We don’t fit in with the Grandparents,no cute stories to share their, so unless we have a childless couple whose life revolves around fur babies, there aren’t any humans to relate to.

    Ever since I was a child….a very young child….I have preferred my pets to people. From the third grade on my experience with humans has been either being bullied, being made fun of, being told I wasn’t good enough. Humans live to degrade and put down other humans in order to feel better about themselves. We live in an angry, dog eat dog world where most people are out Defoe themselves even at the cost of friends and family. Which means we constantly needs to watch our backs.

    However when I Get home I have two fur babies that meet me at the door ready to give hugs and kisses. They look adoringly in my face and love me regardless of my increasing Grey hair, wrinkles on my face, or the pounds I’ve put on,

    Our pets give true unconditional love. Their loyalty is always there. They won’t spread lies or half truths about you or make you the butt of their jokes. It’s been scientifically proven that dogs and even a pet cat are excellent therapy for those suffering mental illness.

    These animals were created for the enjoyment of humans. The bible said man would have dominion over them,,, to the extent that we are to help take care of them. They do need us,,,, and we need them even more!

  93. Olivia Jayne Mansfield says

    November 13, 2015 at 5:04 am

    I do agree with many of the comments on this site regarding people’s rapport with animals. I have a dog Gladstone he is 12 years old a Jack Russell cross with a Yorkshire terrier. What a companion he is loyal loving and faithful not like many of my so called friends who decided to take to the hills when I was ill with depression a few years ago. Friends who I had known for years stopped ringing and calling round I found this very unkind and hurtful as I really needed support at this difficult time. I am now to a degree recovered from my illness but still not completely that will take time the doctor has told me. I must say that not all my friends decided to stop seeing me and I appreciate their support during a difficult time in my life. The so called friends who stopped contacting me made excuses why they stopped contacting me which I dismissed off hand as poppycock. What I also found hurtful I had supported them during their problems in the past but as soon as I had problems illness etc they didn’t want to know. I have now moved on and think to myself it is their loss and look after my lovely dog Nevill and true friends in my life.

  94. Olivia Jayne Mansfield says

    November 13, 2015 at 5:07 am

    Sorry an error my dog is called Gladstone Neville is my next door neighbours dog.

  95. Linda says

    November 19, 2015 at 12:57 pm

    Id rather be around an animal any day rather than a person . Why , because they have no reason to be anything other than what they are. Animals dont require you to look a certain way ,wear certain cloths , have x amount of dollars . Animals are just loving and kind .
    When i look into an animals eye I melt ,their is suchemotion and kindness in them.

  96. Manta says

    January 9, 2016 at 2:28 pm

    I prefer the other animals to 98% of humans all the day. Animals are devoid of all of the malevolence that people inflict on each other. Animals are never deceitful, dishonest, manipulative, or malicious. They are pure and innocent creatures that ask for nothing but to live in peace. Humans are a cruel, violent, destructive, arrogant specie unable to take care of themselves or their planet. I’ve never been proud of being human. There are good people of course but the majority of the human race is just garbage. To the chaos of the “civilization” I prefer the purity of the wild.

  97. Elaine says

    March 26, 2016 at 6:46 am

    I was lucky enough to grow up in the company of dogs, cats, rabbits, horses, guinea pigs and any injured animal we would ‘save’. I believe interactions with animals allows us to tap into our non verbal sixth sense or awareness of intuition. It allows us a sense of who we really are, as through our interactions with our animals we demonstrate the essence of whom we really Are.
    The human race requires sooo many physical evidence of who a person is, the aesthetic, the talent at conversation, the material goods, a history. The concept of living in the moment is a talent that few humans have, myself included… however, animals have that innate gift, and when we share time with them, we are forced to live in the present… the safe, secure, guaranteed Now. I currently have four hound dogs, and each has their own defined personality and idiosyncrasies. When I return from school (I am a teacher), I am generally worn out emotionally and mentally, as teaching is a combination of love And instruction, where each pupil’s individuality is honored to the best of my ability.
    I am confident with people, and have had an immensely active social life. Since my dogs and I have met (they’re all rescue) our trials and tribulations, our growing together and me growing up has made them my haven at the end of a hard day. My learning curve has been virtually vertical. I have all things, I suppose, a successful career full of love and ample human interaction, and my doggie woggies at home. I am not perfect by any means but do favour staying in their company now more than ever. Oh! I live in Cairo, Egypt which is a culture rather intolerant of dogs, and I do not know Anyone personally apart from an American woman who feels Any real empathy or respect for dogs or cats. Possibly that accounts for my protectiveness of them.

  98. Megan says

    March 28, 2016 at 1:59 pm

    I am terrified of large dogs especially rottweilers, german shepards, etc. If one approached me I would be scared frozen and hope it doesn’t attack me. They attack especially if they think that you are on their property. I would not be scared of a little dog though like a poodle.

  99. athea marcos amir says

    April 19, 2016 at 2:43 pm

    I am always researching to see why other people love animals while I hate and fear them and am revolted by them. Wish I could “get” it. Don’t others see how filthy, smelly, and disgusting animals are? Are they wearing some kind of blinders? Mystified in Mexico.

  100. Evan says

    June 22, 2016 at 6:46 am

    I came to this page trying to understand my devastation at the loss of a feral community cat I’ve taken care of for six years, twice a day feeding/watering, insulated dog house in the winter with heating disks I would take down at night so he would be warm until morning. It was all worth it in the way he would look at me. People said, “He lets you get near him?” I”d tell them to stand off at distance. Then I’d show them how he liked me to stroke his stomach and neck, play with his feet and scratch his back. That bond took a while to establish but it’s the reason I can’t seem to get him off my mind.

    The pain of separation has highlighted for me how much more I enjoy being around animals than people. Most people, even friends, have no idea how I feel, although my girlfriend has made pointed remarks about it. And that’s one big reason why I prefer the company of my cats.

    Humans, the so-called crown of creation, have an incredible arsenal of pain-inducing tools that are liberally applied to others. It can range from guilt tripping others (like my girlfriend) to complete lack of empathy for others’ emotional or financial distress they cause, to outright barbarity in our preoccupation with inventing ever more destructive means of killing life.

    I think we humans VASTLY overrate ourselves versus the other kingdoms. We see our technological prowess and intellectual development as the mark of a superior species. Culturally, we ignore the value of other attributes. We pay lip service to them but they’re not what moves Wall Street.

    I love being around animals and similar to the British gentleman above, I remove insects from my home as much as possible and avoid killing them if I can. To me it’s all Life; it’s only humans that seem to have an obsession with destroying as much of it as we can.

    I’ve seen videos online of dogs pulling an injured mate out of harm’s way on a freeway. I’ve yet to hear of a Pomeranian think tank developing more lethal cluster bombs. Which species is the more evolved one?

    Lately, I’ve thought of selling my loft in the city and moving away to some place that was more isolated and natural, leaving everything (including my girlfriend who is really starting to get on my nerves) behind. I am at the point where I’m indecisive about it. Maybe I need to start a new life with a woman who understands things like this the same way I do.

    I think I’ll ask my cats what they suggest.

  101. lara says

    June 28, 2016 at 2:58 am

    I’ve got no idea of psychology, but I’ve always thought that on my case I tend to deposit my libido in animals. Not talking about any sexual matter, but I mean libido in the sense which can also be observed in a child with its favourite toy. Basically, a ‘thing’ where you deposit all your attention, devotion and love.
    I think this was not a random selection for me, as I’ve been abandoned by my mother when I was a child and have struggled ever since to establish deep bonds with humans.
    I’ve been knows to, in fact, be quite bold and cruel with people. Whilst I’m the most lovable being with animals, especially my animals.

  102. Kim says

    August 1, 2016 at 2:04 pm

    I have spent my entire life pleasing humans that can’t quite ever be pleased. Always believing that I was here on earth for the purpose of healing humanity. After decades of self-doubt, pain and the realization that I have given away my truest self in my extreme efforts to please/help humans, I have come to understand my struggle. I am not here on this earth for humans. I am not a healer for humans and so in letting go of that myth I adopted, I have embraced my true purpose on this earth. I am here for all of nature. My connection to nature is on a very basic level, I feel authentic, alive and embraced when I am with my animals or next to a tree. Animals look into us with love and bring love out of our broken hearts. Animals and nature need me more than humans (there are great healers at work for humans now) and I can give them 100% without anxiety. Those of us who have a strong connection to animals and nature are here for a very specific reason. We are called to help Mother Earth and all living beings…every last tiny one. I do not dislike humans, I do not understand them…I still love them. My greatest intention is to one day, because we are all of one energy, find my connection to my species. We are all very important now at this time on Earth for animals, nature and humans!

  103. Shannon says

    August 9, 2016 at 4:51 pm

    I have social anxiety and depression and I’ve suffered with this for a long while. For years I have been unable to connect properly to other humans. But when I came into contact with a dog it felt like all of the problems i had vanished. I suddenly felt a surge of love that would never die and even motherly instincts towards the dog, I wanted to protect her like I’ve never protected anyone.
    I can’t tell you why I exactly feel like this towards animals rather than humans but I believe it is along the lines that I know i won’t be hurt, betrayed or embarrassed by the dog. I don’t know or can even judge what she’s thinking so naturally I don’t think about it. In my head I have that humans can be mean and judgemental but dogs and animals that show affection to you are just unlikely to be like this. They appear to me to be so much more loyal and better companions in the long run.
    It’s strange because even when puppies are making the same noise as a human baby I get annoyed at the baby. Sometimes I just think it’s down to the mentality of the person and possibly based upon their problems, upbringing and personality that changes and evolves how they feel toearda the human race and animals.
    I have tried so hard to connect with others and it could take years but with an animal all it requires is a matter of seconds.

  104. Suds says

    September 26, 2016 at 2:15 pm

    I don’t know why people even compare dogs to humans. They each serve different purposes in our lives. It is not in human nature to love unconditionally (unless you attain a certain level of enlightenment). Then why compare apples to oranges? And it is irrelevant to think dogs are better than humans. Dogs won’t drive you to emergency when you are having a heart attack or a stroke. They serve a good purpose of companionship at the end of the day but by no means should take precedence over a human companionship. Humanizing dogs is not good for either the human or the dog. Just give them basic needs and love. I feel that people who have problems dealing with other people at emotional and intellectual levels look for a substitute in dogs as dogs don’t ask any questions or argue. And it is okay to do that but it is not okay to generalize that “dogs are better than humans”.

  105. Laura says

    November 28, 2016 at 7:26 am

    Hello, I recently lost my cat Kitty Boo and puting her down it was a decision that hurt my heart so much. She had kidney disease and I did every possible thing to keep her going. With that said we known that our little loved ones will make potty mistakes when they are dealing with a sickness. Maybe I let it go on for to long but she for most part looked bright eyes and content to sun herself in the windows. So to put her down took me a long time. It was time just a couple of days ago after two years of fighting kidney disease-even though she did not appear to be in pain she lost too much weight and drank water constantly.
    I would like to know if anyone else put up with mistakes in their houses while trying to support their sick animal. She would use the litter box but also other places.
    My husband doesn’t understand how hard it was for me to make the decision to put my kitty down. And is extremely upset with this problem. After the first mistake he would have had her put down especially cause we had moved to a new home. I know how bad that seems for the new house but kittyboo had been my pet for over 10 years.

  106. neville ralph collingwood says

    January 10, 2017 at 4:09 pm

    I think that when some people talk about animals and human relationships their experiences can vary I think. My particular experience is of a animal a dog in.my case was of a degree that I find on the same par as with some humans. His dog a golden Labrador actually saved me from drowning when I got into trouble after falling into a fast river in Devon. He is my friends dog who was with me at the time. I had quite a rapport with the dog called Dougie before this happened. The mutual rapport had been there since the beginning. If it wasn’t for Dougie I may not have been here now. He pulled me from this that fast river which I had fell into while walking with Dougie when part of the riverbank collapsed on a holiday with my friend in 2014.

  107. miranda karen briggs says

    January 10, 2017 at 4:15 pm

    What an amazing story Neville well done to Dougie.

  108. carole heath says

    January 10, 2017 at 4:21 pm

    Laura I can relate to your comment sometimes a bond between humans and animals can be very strong. Look at joy Adamson with Elsa the lioness.

  109. Dee Ratcliff says

    May 10, 2017 at 8:19 pm

    Wow! So many posts I couldn’t read them all, that tells me for sure I’m not alone in my awkwardly social place of connecting with animals above people. I was the black sheep of my family, at least I thought because I was so awkward with the humans in my family but so open and close with animals. I thought that made me weird or somehow uncaring towards people. I care for all living creatures even humans, I’m just more comfortable with the four legged kind. What I’ve come to see later is that my family didn’t see me as unloving towards people but as having a much bigger heart for caring for all of God’s children.
    After school I knew I had to work with dogs, my biggest love on this earth and I was also an artist, very creative and terrible with science and even worse with sad stuff so I knew I couldn’t be a veterinarian or even a vet tech, a nurse for dogs, I hate vet tech, they are nurses! Anyways, I still knew I had to work with dogs and a light bulb went off, “dog groomer”! I can work with doogs all day and never have to hurt them and get to make them feel good and beautiful! Ok, so they don’t look in the mirror like us and say wow, what a great haircut! But they do feel like they look great! They feel great cuz they are clean and no tangles in their hair and oh wow, all the humans are fawning over them, so they know they look fabulous!! They love it and I love it, I know I make them happy and feel confident and they do the same for me even when they have a picky mom who is never satisfied it doesn’t matter as long as they give me happy kisses and a wagging tail I know I did right by them! It seems like yesterday I started my journey making these precious children pretty and feel loved as many were homeless looking for a family and found one because of a simple bath and haircut, here I am at my 28th year much longer than most stick with it, it is a labor of love and for me I couldn’t imagine anything else! As many dogs that I may have saved in shelters will never measure to my life being saved by being able to support myself doing the only thing I could ever imagine being able to do!
    I just want to add one last thing about my family and feeling like an outcast. I had an aunt once tell me she didn’t understand why people would spend so much money on their dogs when there are so many children out there without homes or parents. That so hurt me and somewhat confirmed my own feelings of not being a good human but then I kept thinking about it. I come from a strong and devout Catholic family and all I could keep thinking was St.Frances, he was a great Saint of the animals and you can find his statue in many gardens and church’s! I’ve always wanted to go back and talk to my aunt but she probably wouldn’t even remember saying to me but if I did I would tell her the God put us all here for a special purpose, hers was to look after babies and children but he had a purpose for me too, just like St. Frances, to look after his animals, because they are his special creatures too, if he did not love his animals then why did he have Noah build the ark for them? We all have a place and a purpose under god even us sometimes antisocial animal lovers?

  110. Lynne Weir says

    May 21, 2017 at 3:11 am

    Wow what a wonderful set of msgs – some heartwarming, some heartbreaking. I am one of those who most definitely connrct far better with animals than with people. I love & adore my husband of 30 years, & I have a niece whom I also love very much. There is one living brother from whom I have not heard in years. The rest of my immediate family, including the brother I was very close to, are gone. Currently, I only have three cats & one dog. I also have one tiny little tarantula, for which I feel a certain amount of affection, but not the kind of love that I have for my mammalian pets. I have been a professional dog trainer (beginning @ age 7), a zoo director, run a tropical fish farm, & worked for several veterinarians & a few pet stores in my 68 years. Although I have also worked as a musician/singer, the jobs I loved the most were the ones with animals! I also was almost killed by a neighbor’s German Shepherd when I was 15 – the dog (which I knew -it was not a stranger) had stepped on a nail & its paw was bleeding – the woman who owned it asked me to hold it while she went into her apt. to call the vet. I was kneeling beside the dog, holding it, with my face up next to its – & it just turned & tooka bite! The dog had never bitten before, & apparently just had the temperanental quirk such that it tasted blood the first time in its life & went completely crazy & tried to kill me! With all of my experience handling & training animals – and I was not a small girl – I was 5’8″ & 137 lbs – I could not stop this dog! The attack was so horrific that over a dozen adult men who witnessed it were “frozen” & did not move to stop the dog. My 19 year old boyfriend & one of his friends, who were around the corner working on his car heard the screams & commotion & ran to me & my boyfriend threw the dog into the nearby swimming pool. Not before this 100 plus pound whut German Shepherd nearly tore off my right eyebrow, bit through my cheek, into my neck (Dr. said another 1/4 to 1/2 inch would have severed my carotid artery. Hr also bit through my arm & through my leg. I had 190 stitches in my face & neck, & 80-some in my arm & leg. The Sheriff’s Deputy who answered the call did not at first believe the damage had bee done by a dog, but that we were all trying to cover up some sort of automobile accident. My point in telling this is that, despite the expectations of my parents, my Doctors, & almost all the witnesses, I did not become permanently afraid
    of dogs – just a great deal more careful, especially of injured ones – I went on to spend many years as an animal professional, even working with big cats & primates (although I do not really like monkeys, & am truly distrustful – even afraid of chimps). Many of the adults around this situation wanted the dog “put down”, and it was @ my insistence that this did not happen. The experience did help to make me a much better trainer, & much more observant of the small clues in an animal’s personality & behavior that can give away a potential problem. Now, 53 years later, I still love almost all animals – not so keen on cockroaches & fire ants! Mostly, I remember with love, & mostly joy, all the animals I have loved and, yes, lost in my life. My parents encouraged all if ys to love & be kind to all our fellow creatures – although my mother was abit strange about it -her aninals definitely took precedence over ours – we lwere stationed in Morocco when I was 3 – 7 tears old, & whike we were there, my mom acquired a pair of beautiful, very large, Siamese cats. They came back to the States with us, & I was given a kitten from the first litter – partly to “make up” fir having had to leave my beloved black cat, “Sheba” behind in Morocco ‘ supposedly because she “wasn’t allowed” to come to this country (the tale I was told involved “no papers”) I think it had to do with “paper money”! So MY cat was left behind. Then, back in the States, about a year later, I was given the kitten from the first litter of Siamese. About a year & a half, maybe two years later, my brotger, 23 mos. younger than I, developed asthma, & showed allergies. Of course, cats were blamed (actually, the Drs. said all the furry things, but the dog apparently could just live outside). Turned out, my mom’s cats got to stay, because they were just such valuable purebred breeders, but my cat had to go, because, well, three cats were just TOO many! So, once again my heart was torn out, & my beloved pet had to go. My mother said I would “understand” when I grew up & had children of my own (uf one if them had allergies/asthma – which was explained to me ran in families. Well, that was the day > promised myself, & told my mother that I was never, ever going to have children, because I would never again love an animal and have to give it up over a child! I have kept that promise, and have never regretted it. The only animal regret that I have had since was in allowing my then-husband to bully me into putting down a perfectly beatiful, healthy cat because it bit him – he said he would leave me if I did not – I should have told him to get the h— out – of course, that is what I would do today! After that, my incontrovertible rule is: pets before men – before anyone. I believe when one takes on an animal, it is your responsibility. PERIOD! It is not negotiable – in the case of allergic kids – there are (& were then, I now know) shors that will control those allergies, & it is inexcusable to kill an innocent animal to keep a kid from having a shot once a week or once a month! Better not to have kids at all, in my opinion – I know that might be un-popular, but that’s just too d— bad! Its how I feel. OK, ’nuff rant!

  111. Laura says

    September 3, 2017 at 4:45 pm

    When I was a small child I lived in a house with dysfunction. I was neglected and never felt love from my family. I don’t remember my parents giving me hugs or kisses. I always had a dog though. When I was young my dog was everything to me. They played with me, loved me, hugged me and kissed me. I was comfortable giving and accepting love from my dogs. I was not taught how to socialize around humans. So now as a adult I’m awkward around humans. I even have children of my own now and I know why I am the way I am and I except that it is wrong and that my children need me to show them affection, but I have to be honest it is something that makes me uncomfortable and I’m not very good at it. Don’t take this wrong I’m not abusive in anyway and I fight everyday to make my children’s lives better. Just for me animals are comfortable and easier for me to show affection too. I think a lot of it is not feeling accepted by humans but knowing my place with my animals. I think humans caused me a lot of pain throughout my life and emotionally I have blocks up. Where my trusty old dogs have never let me down. Soon as I pet my dogs when I come home I feel a sigh of relief.

  112. Bob Jarvis says

    September 29, 2017 at 12:37 pm

    IANAMHP, but some of us who relate better to animals than people may (repeat: MAY) have experienced emotional neglect/abuse/abandonment as kids. Something to think about.

  113. Steve says

    December 26, 2017 at 1:16 pm

    The truth is, people that relate more to animals than other people do so because the animal gives them what they think is unconditional love. But a human relationship is conditional. It’s give and take. It’s complex. But animals will treat you the same no matter how bad you are to them. I honestly think there is a mental disorder for people who can’t forge true human relationships, but have “relationships with pets.

  114. Christine says

    December 26, 2018 at 3:05 pm

    I myself have always felt more comfortable around animals as well. I think the reasons should be obvious really, they are completely innocent, they don’t say things that are not necessary esp. those things that are cruel. They don’t usually try to hurt people unless they feel they need to protect another human or are afraid for themselves. I think these are traits they learn from their human companions, I don’t see wild animals doing this. They usually get along together fine,Then unless they are carnivores and it’s time to eat, but those are laws of nature. That’s my whole point, I think I like that they live by the laws of nature, and not the manmade induced laws we have today. I received my renewed passport in the mail, and the feeling of freedom came over me, I could travel the world. This is freedom. Not to feel free in our own country, but to feel free in our own world. There is no one free, free from what? From bad people? or free from people we don’t want to associate with because they are different from us. These are all things humans have created to separate themselves from each other. The question shouldn’t be why do some people feel more comfortable around animals? The question should be why wouldn’t they? Anyone who thinks animals are a nuisance is most likely a nuisance themselves.

  115. Cindy says

    May 9, 2020 at 11:55 am

    Animals are innocents who do not have a voice or a choice. Same with human babies and children although the humans eventually grow up and that innocence goes away. I have plenty of good relationships with people but have a special love for animals. I have often said that if there are jobs in heaven that my job would be taking care of all of the animals no matter what species! As for my time on earth, I am happiest when I’m around animals. I have been this way all of my life and am nearing 66 so I’m guessing it will never change. And I don’t have a “mental disorder”……

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